What is Stroke
A stroke, also known as cerebrovascular accident (CVA), is an acute neurologic injury whereby the blood supply to a part of the brain is interrupted, either by a clot in the artery...
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My boyfriend and I had been together 17 years when he had a stroke. We did not live together. He is 67 and I am 56.
Last Oct (2008) he had a stroke. I was the one he called when he started experiencing the stroke. I called the paramedics, went with him to the hospital, visited him, etc. I brought him to my house until he could get on feet again. He made a remarkable physical recovery. Every now and then he would say something really rude to me, but I ignored it and didn't think anything of it. Everyone gets grumpy now and then, right? It never occurred to me that he could be saying these things as a result of the stroke. Fast forward to August 5. One day after getting back from my vacation with my youngest son, my boyfriend comes over to break up with me! I was totally shocked. His reasons were: He's not attracted to me anymore. I have gained too much weight (I'm 5'-1", 120 lbs), and he is attracted to someone else! I let him be for 1 week and then I e-mailed him to see where things stood. He told me he thought things were working out with the "new girl" and I should probably find someone else. WWYD? Does this sound like the result of the stroke or maybe he really wants to break up with me? While I was on vacation he was calling me and saying "I love you"! If he so easily dismisses everything we've been to each other for 17 years will he be able to sustain a relationship for very long with a new person? I'm wondering if I should wait around for this fling to end, continue contac with him (on a friends basis) so maybe he will turn back to me. I'm so confused at this point. Posted on 08/23/09, 07:08 am |
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Oh Tuffcookie - that is so sad! Here is a big **HUG** for you as well as a special prayer that you will allow sunshine and peace ONLY inside the fortress of your home.
Most people who have strokes are perfectly capable thereafter of normal relationships and lives. I've never known anyone who recovered so well from a stroke and then developed brain issues so long afterward, but is IS POSSIBLE he is getting sick with some other disease. I think the first thing I would do is find out if he has truly found a new woman. If he has, I'd considering moving on. If he is coming down with something else, remaining friends is always an option, but you need to search your heart and make sure you want to be responsible for taking care of him, considering he may become even more rude and disconnected, and need 24 hr care. If HE has moved on and found another woman, well...you know the routine. Lots of people have invested 17 or more years together and then called it quits. It seems "someone new" is involved almost 100% of the time. Go on facts, not possible lies. Then weigh your options. If he is running around, I hope you do not decide to put your life on hold just in case he decides to come back to you. What if he never does? 
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