What is Stroke
A stroke, also known as cerebrovascular accident (CVA), is an acute neurologic injury whereby the blood supply to a part of the brain is interrupted, either by a clot in the artery...
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after my stroke my husband became my carer but he said he felt more like a helper than a husband eventualy last october he told me he no longer loved me as i came out a different person when i left the hospital after six months, i feel so lonely and social services are a waste of times as i have got two young children to look after if i did not have the support of my family i don't know what i have had done who is going to want a disabled partner ?
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I'm so sorry to hear this. I, too, got separated from my husband because, basically, he gave up taking care of me; in fact, he pushed me hard to go to a nursing home for daily regimented care,. So, i moved out of our home and have been living on my own since October of last year. Your husband must also have reached the burnout stage like mine did. Mine also told me I wasn't the same person he married anymore. Unfortunately, after a stroke, we do change a lot; that's just the way it is and there's really nothing you can do about it. Like I read somewhere before, when you have a stroke, your old you basically dies and a new person takes over. I know it is rough, so please be tough and strong. Yes, it is possible to survive. I did and still do - you just have to be very strong and positive. Please take care, ok? never give up hope and keep praying to the Lord for help and guidance. Love always,
Annie:) 
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I feel your pain!! I finaly found a great girl that I have been dating and I get angry becuse I know that if I were the old me I would have been married by now!! Just keep pressing on and working your brain one day we will rise out of the rubble!!
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know the feelin green, i'm a 27yr old man who had a brain stem stroke my sr yr of college due to freak sports accident. i was in a fairly long relationship at the time and she dropped my butt before i got out of rehab hospital. there is no doubt i'd b in a relationship now if i wasnt so disabled.
i know my case is extreme cause i'm now quad and mute and rely heavily on assistance from others. i understand it takes a strong, confident woman to deal with my injuries, but i have no cognitive deficits and am working on my ph.d. right now so i am rather intelligent. but women do not take the time to get to know me, because they assume i'm retarded because i cant speak, if they'd just take a few mins, but they treat me like i have plague. good luck to u all my friends, just give it time and remain confident.
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Well, I have a few pieces of "reactions" from that post you wrote. First of all, your ex-husband obviously wasn't strong enough for you. You need someone who is going to face the challenge and be there and go through "the trenches" with you. Second of all, you have to get out of that mindset that you are a "disabled" partner. I, too, struggle with seeing myself as just "Shane" instead of "Shane with a brain injury". I feel that this would be a very important step in your recovery and to help you get back on your feet. I will most certainly say a prayer for you.
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To Everyone who's spouse, signicant others, etc. bailed as a result of your stroke or injury--it's their loss! You're all new people, with a profound sense of life, as a result of what has occurred. They've missed out getting to know all of you and what you have to offer. My boyfriend had a stroke one year ago and I can't imagine my life without him in it.
Jomck--Always remember to look at your abilities, as opposed to disabilities. You have many, focus on enhancing them. The best to you...
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