What is Stress Management
Stress management defines stress as a person's physiological response to an external stimulus that triggers the "fight-or-flight" reaction. Causes of stress: Work, life, many thing...
Join Now
|
weird relationship stress
|
Watch this |
| View More Posts Ignore |
ok so i have this friend pat. we've known each other a little over a year now and we've been though alot together. mostly my stressful situations and multiple other problems i've had as well. i've told him everything about me and he still loves me despite all of it. but recently ive been feeling very guilty about it. he does so so much for me, but i dont do hardly anything for him because, i dunno...he just doesnt really talk about problems. which is basically my fault for occupying his time with all of mine. and when he does ask, i dont know what to say half the time. i feel that im a bad friend for all this....lately ive been really stressed out because of school and an abusive boyfriend. and he sits back and just listens to everything i have to say. but i often cut what im saying off short. because im tired of hurting him with all the situations that its just impossible for anyone to do much for. he blames himself for not being able to help me. but its not his fault. he lives 4 hours away. how could it be his fault. it couldnt be.so it comes back to me. i tell him everything, because i believe im too "comfortable" with him. i literally tell him anything. he may ask me to tell, but i most likely would have told him anyway. i like the feeling of not having to hide myself from at least one person in my life. but this is where the big problem comes in....some of my situations are hurtful. and it hurts him to just sit back and watch and not be able to do anything about them. im changing the way he is, which isnt what i want. he seems to be angrier now and much less tolerant of certain things. we fight alot anymore over dumb shit that i do, well, sometimes its more things that i wont do. and i dont want to fight...but i let my stress+my opinions mix. which turns into frustration and then me just giving up and barely talking at all. ive told him many times that he should just leave me and be happy. but he doesnt think he can be happy without me. i just want to know, whether i just need to chill and take his advice no questions asked (he gives very good, logical advice that im dumb not to take). or if we should come to a compromise of some kind? we really dont want to lose each other, so i want to try to work this out in any way possible.
Posted on 06/03/09, 11:06 pm |
| 6 Replies | Add Your Reply |
| View More Posts Ignore |
Just sounds like you have some low self esteem issues going on, I would get some couple's counciling, it is usually not just one person's fault that a relationship doesn't work, so don't put so much stress on yourself. 
|
|
|
|
||
| View More Posts Ignore |
be thankful to have someone to just listen..everyone i know wants me to blow sunshine up thier butts..none of them know me really cause they live in thier happy world..but they too will need a shoulder one day and i might feed them the same words fed to me..
sorry..just be thankful hes there to support and listen..even if he is far away..cany find many to do that unless you are paying them..
|
|
|
|
||
| View More Posts Ignore |
well, thesteps, i am very very grateful to have him. without him id be dead. it is good to have someone like that. and i think everyone can find someone like that right here on ds. :)
|
|
|
|
||
| View More Posts Ignore |
i agreed to marry this man online. I dont even know him. Hes black, 35, in Nigeria. Im white, 56, USA. he says he fixes computers and will earn the money to come to USA. im asking him many questions. Some questions he avoids. Im hiding this relationship on everybody, but its hard. im all stressed out. What should i do?
|
|
|
|
||
| View More Posts Ignore |
to be honest, it doesnt sound legit. this man should answer anything you want him to. do what YOU feel is right.
|
|
|
|
||
| View More Posts Ignore |
RiskLovingMe: Don't feel guilty about tell this guy your problems. He is your friend and friends are there to listen and to help you out when you need them. He might just be angry because he can't help you and doesn't like see you hurt. I don't think that it is anything against you. Sometimes it is hard to take a person's advice. We need to learn on our own. He needs to accept the fact that you need to make decisions that are the best for you, even if that means making the wrong decision. We all learn in different ways. My dear you are a strong woman and you will go far in life. Just remember you have all the strength you need inside of you. You will get through this. If you ever need anything please let me know.
Kat13662: I would be very careful with this guy who you have agreed to marry. How much do you really know about him? Also I agree that he should answer any question that you pose to him because he is going to be your husband and there should be no pictures. I hope everything works out!!
|
|
|
|
||
| Add Your Reply |
