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Before leaving for school,my sons were playing inside the car with their baby sister.When i heard the baby cried,i have no idea that she bumped her head while inside the car. When we left,thats the time i knew about the incident. I scolded my three sons for not telling me right away. We left the baby with the nanny without even putting some ice pack on the bump.I was scolding them while driving when suddenly my teenage son talked back in a furious manner saying that I should stop talking and blaming me that they did not tell me because I will get angry.It was a stressful early morning that day. How will i impart to my teenage son that talking back to parents is not proper, without him becoming rebellious?
Posted on 08/13/09, 08:08 pm |
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Obviously, i'm not too far off from being a teenager myself, but I do believe I can give you a sons perspective.
If it was a particularly stressful morning, then I would calmly sit down with him and just explain to him that your intention was not to blame or become upset but you were understandably concerned about his baby sister. Tell him that you love him and you never want him to feel afraid to come to you with anything. He may scoff or pretend that he doesn't care what you have to say, but I assure you that he's listening. Most of us listen to our parents even though we may not like what they have to say. We don't want to admit that our parents are right because then that would mean that we're not! Lol. Make sure that he understands why you became upset and after you both forgive and forget, casually mention to him that as his parent, in the future you would appreciate his respect so that he may be respected in turn. It's the best way to diffuse a bad situation. I've had a lot of personal experience with my mother and father! I hope this perspective helps! =) 
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I can't speak for your exact situation because of course I wasn't there, and probably then I wouldn't know very much because I don't know you and your kids and family, but let me make a stab at "IF this THEN maybe THAT". (computer talk) .... Like if you spoke in what he perceives as harsh, repetitive and unjustified he may have gotten frustrated and spit it out. If you simply tell him you don't appreciate the way he spoke with you, or "I don't like the way you spoke with me yesterday when we were talking about ..... and I don't want you to talk to me that way again." and make that the end of the discussion, that may be enough, esp. if it's the first time. Or don't bring it up again, tommorrow is a different day and maybe it will be the one and only time he speaks like that. If he speaks to you with disrepect frequently that means you've lost his respect, rightly or wrongly. If so I don't think most parents can regain it.
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