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Clarify or repeat back what that person has said. Sometimes, when we clarify their statements, they hear it back. This gives them an opportunity on how they are relaying it to us.

Example: "Your telling me, I'm ignorant in the decisions I'm making?" or "You don't feel I'm capable of making of being independent?"

Sometimes, they will hear us repeat their statments and try to change or explain themselves. However, the circumstances, it is a way that we are able to get a clear understanding of where they are coming from.

As I like to explain it them. "I want to be sure I get where your coming from." Hope this helps.

try to take your friend's observations objectively like " why would she say such thing?" , if what she says upsets you and makes you feel bad about yourself confront her , don't let any one make you underastimate yourself

I know she is like this with other people, people she calls friends and strangers alike. She is very highly opinionated and very stubborn. She is at times borderline verbally abusive. I need not put up with that. I have my own pride and self-esteem and don't need her in my life even if we do know each other a long time. TY for your help and advice , i do appreciate it deeply.