Step Families Support Group

YES I DEFINITLY FEEL THAT WAY. IT IS PRETTY MUCH RUINING OUR MARRIAGE. HIS DAUGHTER HAS LIVED WITH US FOR 3 MONTHS NOW AND IT HAS BEEN HORRIBLE. I FEEL IF I SAY SOMETHING ABOUT HER HE GETS ALL DEFENSIVE AND MAKES A BIG DEAL OUT OF IT BUT YET HE WANTS ME TO BE AN EQUAL PARENT. MAKES SENSE HUH? YEA RIGHT. THERES NO WAY TO HANDLE THOSE FEELINGS THAT I KNOW OF BUT IF YOU FIGURE A WAY OUT PLEASE LET ME KNOW. MARRYING A MAN WITH KIDS IS A TOUGH JOB AND YOU HAVE TO LIVE WITH YOUR CHOICE EVERYDAY AS MUCH AS YOU MAY REGRET IT.

i know the feeling..my hubby does the same. His son has created a huge wedge in our marriage and I am to the point that I want out. It's been a long four years and life is too short to be this miserable.

I am so there with you. My husband told me right before we got married that his daughter was more important to him than me and that our marriage would never come first. I was going to call off the wedding but allowed myself to be talked back into it. I should've stuck to my guns.

Our entire marriage was ran (and ruined almost to the point of divorce) by my SD. At one point in time, I was going to go to court to evict her for doing something in my home that was dangerous to my children. She was an adult, too. My H moved out with her and left me with a 9 and 8 year old again facing divorce. He moved back and she's still gone but I still don't have alot of faith in him. A man that would walk on his children who needed him to live with a lying, manipulative little tramp like my SD doesn't have his head screwed on straight. He knew what she did and left his kids that needed his protection. I still have a hard time forgiving him for that.

WOW ladies, its amamzing how many of us are facing the same problem. My H is doing the same thing. We have only been married 4 months and now have a baby of our own on the way.He is constantly putting his son first and it is so frustrating. I get very upset and start to cry constantly. I love him with all my heart but fear that he is going to allow his son to ruin our relationship. And now i am worried how he is going to treat our baby. I am so scared that this is not going to turn out well. I just know myself and that is that if he mistreats my new baby he will be gone!

I don't have any children by my hubby and frankly I am glad we don't. If I decide to get out, it will just make it easier. His son is a liar and a manipulator..a true chameleon. I don't like being around the child cause he has given me plenty of evidence not to trust him. Hubby on the other hand caters to him left and right. It seems as though his son is his spouse and I am the child. I too called off my wedding and wished I had stuck to my guns. I am past miserable and really just want both of them gone.

I am with you 100% on this one. We are meant to be husband and wife but are so far apart on up bringing ideas. He sides with his girls all the time and I am the extra limb. I am over it completly and not sure if I can take anymore. Plus his x wife has far too much imput but wont say hello to me so I have banned her from coming off council land and waiting at top of drive way until she can be polite.
Love a solution please. Maybe we all need to meet somewhere in the middle for a camp fire and solve the world together

Love the idea.A total chill out.At the beginning of our relationship my S/O also said 'my child comes first'.Boy did I know it.He then wavered a bit and made out like we were more equal at some point but to me the proof is in the actions.His so goes to bed late,watches a lot of what he wants,leaves rubbish everywhere even in our bedroom/bed etc etc.My needs generally come last including my family/friends and I am expected to fit in with them.I actually think 'OK,if I come last,you two will not always come first' though it's not always easy with S/O at least.

My ss does not come into my bedroom much..at least when I am around..dont know what he does when I am not in the house. My hubby demonstrates every day that I am last on the list. Dont know how long I can stay in a marriage that is this way especially when it is my house and I have done things to support my husband and make my ss'r room very comfortable...he has never ever had his own bedroom until he moved in here. i am looking forward to our pow wow..where can we meet....we just need time for us!!!!

Kiwi, if you're in New Zealand, then let's go!!!

Kiwi at heart but live in Brissy, bit too cold at home. But looking to move back if we could afford it as the step kids would stay here with their m. Bring on the lottery haha