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Okay today some nasty person came on here and was mean to me and another person in the Smoking Addiction and Recovery group. Both me and the other person that got treated badly were comforting the mean person when suddenly she got very nasty and abusive towards both of us. The other person that got treated badly besides me is one of my friends.
So then my friend decides that since I talked to the nasty person (she did too) that she might not want to support my quit anymore because she said I might be like my nasty friend and think like she does. Thing is that I wasn't mean to anyone and I don't feel I should be held accountable for what someone else did. Now I feel that my real friend (I thought)didn't care about me in the first place or they wouldn't be looking for reason to blame me and not care about me because of what the nasty person did. I'm thinking about quitting the group unless I am talked out of it. That made me smoke a whole bunch of cigarettes and I was doing good before that. I'm not strong enough in my attempt to cut down on smoking yet to be able to handle this kind of stuff. Should I quit the group? I know the nasty person didn't care and I think the other person didn't care either or they wouldn't have said something like that when they could have just asked me if the nasty person was my friend or not. I don't know why it made me smoke alot more but since the person that I though was my real friend has quit then they should be able to remember how fragile you feel when you are trying to stop smoking. I got abused by the nasty person too. I send support to the real friend because they got treated badly too but I don't think they supported me. Am I right? Am I wrong? Why did it make me smoke so much? and Should I quit the group? Posted on 08/26/09, 01:08 am |
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I think you should stay. The msgs we receive here are all positive, and that helps. I'm 6months free and i'm still here. It's hard to stop, but once you do its nice to share that success and encourage others as well.
So stay. 
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Wow! What a response! I do want to stay and thank you all so much for asking me to stay. I have gotten alot better (feeling better mentally and have gained some control over the addiction) since I've been here in two short weeks. I am starting to feel like I have a family now that supports me. And what a wonderful feeling it is! I've never had this feeling in my whole life.
I definately will stay and would love to stay and keep working at it. Oh and by the way, the real friend of mine that got treated badly too, she is still my friend and she's not mad at me. I'm so glad that she is still my freind and will still support me. I think she was just afraid of being abused again. Can't blame her for that. But to the nasty mean person; all that is is yap yap yap yap yap! and doesn't mean a thing. Thank all you so much, you are all good and lovely people and I feel so blessed to be in the group with you all and that you want me to stay. :) Congratulations to all of you who have quit! and to any one who is still working on it, stay in the group and don't give up. This is a great bunch of people here! Just ask for help if you need it and someone will come running to help you. They've been there and they know what to do. Wantstolive
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don't let others decide what is best for you. You started to quit smoking because it is the best thing for you, so stay with it. there are a lot of good people out here that will help you reach your goal and sometimes the ones we think care about us really don't. don't quit the group just quit the smoking. you can do it.
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I've read your posts here and elsewhere, wtl, I am not going to comment on all the back and forth stuff.
I think your way of wanting to quit is just as valid as any others, whether it succeeds or not. There are examples of this no matter which method is used. I know someone who did quit by using the cut-down method. She's been smoke free for many years having done it that way. And you should have the freedom of talking about your way in this group.
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