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Okay today some nasty person came on here and was mean to me and another person in the Smoking Addiction and Recovery group. Both me and the other person that got treated badly were comforting the mean person when suddenly she got very nasty and abusive towards both of us. The other person that got treated badly besides me is one of my friends.
So then my friend decides that since I talked to the nasty person (she did too) that she might not want to support my quit anymore because she said I might be like my nasty friend and think like she does. Thing is that I wasn't mean to anyone and I don't feel I should be held accountable for what someone else did. Now I feel that my real friend (I thought)didn't care about me in the first place or they wouldn't be looking for reason to blame me and not care about me because of what the nasty person did. I'm thinking about quitting the group unless I am talked out of it. That made me smoke a whole bunch of cigarettes and I was doing good before that. I'm not strong enough in my attempt to cut down on smoking yet to be able to handle this kind of stuff. Should I quit the group? I know the nasty person didn't care and I think the other person didn't care either or they wouldn't have said something like that when they could have just asked me if the nasty person was my friend or not. I don't know why it made me smoke alot more but since the person that I though was my real friend has quit then they should be able to remember how fragile you feel when you are trying to stop smoking. I got abused by the nasty person too. I send support to the real friend because they got treated badly too but I don't think they supported me. Am I right? Am I wrong? Why did it make me smoke so much? and Should I quit the group? Posted on 08/26/09, 01:08 am |
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hiya Im sorry to hear that someone was mean to you and that your friend misuderstood the situation. Dont leave the group because having support is critical when you are quitting.
Ok you smoked some cigarettes and thats a setback but dont let it be permanent just restart your quit. You can do this Hugs Deb 
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Thanks for the IM Deb, I feel alot better about things now! Wantstolive.
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I know that I personallly would not have been able to quit (or stay quit) without the support of the people in this group. I'm glad you are feeling better. I want you to stay. :)
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Please stay. I can not even count how many times I gave in and started smoking again for similar reasons. We are here to give everybody support and daily strength!!
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Wantstolive, please stay with us. I am so sorry you were treated badly here.I sure hope you reported this person. Didn't they see the message right under the advise box that is a promise to be nice??? We all want to help you deal with anger and depression in another way, not by lighting up.Plan another quit, stay close to this 'family' try to think of other ways to deal with negative feelings other that lighting up. Hit pillows,scream,cry,tear paper apart..anything. We will all be here for you.
Sending gentle hugs your way,Mayberry
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Stay with the group and report that person...I have been on thsi group for awhile and every once in awhile there has been a mean person and we have lost some excellent members because of it!! Please stay
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As someone once told me a long time ago- on any internet support group you're going to get a few crazies and meanies. But don't let others deter you from your goals. Hopefully you know by now that there are alot of genuine and caring people here that really can help w/your quit- focus on that rather than the one or two bad apples. I've had interferences from a few meanies in the past too- its disheartening but I wont allow someone else to take away my power to feel good about my quit or get the support from the nice people here. Stay and hold your head up proud!!!!
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Okay I read your hug...or lack there of from this meanie....it happens and by all means look at the thread of support here that you're getting....always a few rotton peas in the pod....pick up your boot straps, brush off and hope you stick around, like Tikka I could not have become completely smoke free without the love and support I've been given on this site and the love and support I've given in return.
Keep coming back it really works! Oh and like Mayberry said....report this incident to DS as it is truely abusive and this is a support site!
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You MUST stay!!! I could never have been so positive about my quit without this group.For every mean person you come across there are a thousand kind and supportive ones! Don't let the mean person be a reason to go,let the kind and loving people be a reason to stay!! xx
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stay on! this is the biggest reason for the success of my quit, if it wasn't for DS, I would still be smoking! You would be hurting yourself if you quit.
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