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I didn't but now I wish I had. Here you can change your child's name by depoll but I don't know if you need the fathers permission. I can't see why you cant hyphenate but if you want to change it from the birth certificate then I think that's when you need to involve the other parent. Not sure so you need to check out your local birth, deaths and marriages office.

when my sons was born, he never got his asshole dads last name. we were never married or lived together so my son has my last name. however to get his dad to stop whinning like a big baby about not having his last name used, i used his last name as one of my sons middle name. legally my sons last name is the same as mine and i wont be using his dads last name in any of his paperwork

Yes! I absolutely took back my maiden name after divorce. The way I look at it is: I married him and made a commitment to him, and, in a way, was connected to him, so therefore I took his last name. But in choosing to divorce him means I decided to no longer be committed to him, and to disconnect from him completely... so the only logical thing in my mind to do was to shed the ring and shed the name as well. I was no longer that person. If I had kept his name, I would've been miserable.
As for my daughter, who was born after we were married and has his last name... I guess I feel like that is her "maiden" name, and I have no right to change it.

I kept my ex husbands name and will probably have unless I get married some day. Of course it makes it easier with the kids but I also didn't want my fathers name again so that was a huge part of the reason

I believe you need the father's permission.
Can I ask why you feel the need to put your own last name in there?
For example, and this may not be even the reason, nor am I putting any judgment on you... but my parents didn't like my daughter's father, and when it came down to putting the name on the birth certificate, my parents were like vultures wondering if I was going to list my daughter's last name the same as her dad's. So bizarre I thought that they used so much energy wondering and snooping to see what name she was going to be given. What's in a name... right, isn't that what they say? Just because his last name is hers too, doesn't make her any more of his child than mine... geesh, parents!!!

I thought about it, but you may want to keep the same name as your children. It feels better to them and plus if you get married again, its gone again!!!

Thankfully I followed the Brazilian tradition and my maiden name is my son's middle, so now I am back to maiden and we still have one name in common.

I did go back to my maiden name. I had hyphenated and it was always sort of a pain so I have no intention of changing my name again even if I do get remarried. One benefit for me is that we followed the tradition of Peru, where he is from, so the kids legally have his last name, followed by my last name. They use his last name when you ask them what their name is but I know mine is there and I like it that way.

I think you can look online and find out the answer to your question. I know there are guidelines out there for the steps that are required for sure.