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just found out son is having sex.
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I'm sorry if this has been posted thousands of times before but I'm new to the group...
Last night my bubble that I have been living in was shattered.. I found out my son has had sex.. Not only with one girl but 3 girls... He's not even 17 yet.. He's been in this stage of lying to me all the time for the past year or so.. His grades aren't great, but then again they never were really. I have tried everything.. I just don't know what to do.. I've taken everything away from him, but he doesn't seem to really care.. He's been in counseling in the past and that didn't help anything at all. I'm at my witts end and am seriously looking into sending him away to a boot camp style school setting, but don't have the finances, and there aren't any in my state. Today I'm calling his doctor to set him up with a full STD screening because who knows how many guys these girls have slept with.. He claims he used protection everytime, but we all know that doesn't protect against everything, and worse yet some of the most common STDs are ones that condoms don't protect against.. Any ideas on how to get him on the right track would be greatly appreciated.. We've talked till we are blue in the face, but yet he keeps making terrible decisions. I feel like such a failure at mothering.. Up until recently I thought I was a great mother, but lately not so much.. Posted on 10/07/09, 09:10 am |
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My advice, don't accept this as the norm, but I wouldn't punish him for it either. I would let a respectful man that he respects speaks with him about the way women think. I would also scare him half to death and tell him how he will be raising children because women like to poke holes in condoms and do all kind of tricks. He will also not want to deal with a coniving girl who might move on to the next man and then he'll be paying child support for her and another man. While he struggling to make it, they spending his child support on their BMW and he wont be able to do anything. Go army on him! Give him more structure with chores and getting up early instead of punishing him. Make him do 100 push ups and crap like that. I'm not ready for all this stuff, I have two boys. OMG! 
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I'm 16 years old. I had great parents who taught me right from wrong but as teenagers we like to push our limits. try having an open discussion about what kind of girl he deserves, you know the nice girl you want him be with. try to not get angry with him or shame him because it might drive him away. sex was a non topic with my parents and I don't know if that would have changed the fact that I have 3 kids and another one on the way. I can't promise that what I'm saying will help in the least but it just might.
Cynthia
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