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I did, it was hard I will admit, and it still is some times, I use to sleep on the couch faceing towards the back so I did not feel so alone, I also got a cat wich believe it or not helped alot, cause it was not just touch I was longing for but being alone. I was very with drawn and seldom went out I spent most of my time at home alone with the kids. I eventually started to go out with friends and spend more time out doors and that led me to the man I am with now. We don't live with eachother yet so I still have those nights where I just want to be held but in the back of my mind I know it will come in time. So my advice to you is try to live life as normal as what you can, go out and find what there is and when you least expect it you will find that person that will give you the touch you have bin longing for ;) Hope this helped a little, have a great weekend :)

I hear you rach! I feel much the same but thankfully it is not as intense all the time as it was when we first separated. I miss the feeling of having someone hold me and feel even for just a moment everything is safe and secure. However in my case I hated the man who had his arms around me most of the time because it was to make him feel better not to make me feel safe. I was with an abusive man and wow I have just figured this one out. I realy hated his arms around me. Now that I think about it I'm not sure I ever felt safe in his arms.
I think I had an epiphany!!! THank you rach. I hope it subsides for you soon and you take the advice from your other supporter. It sounds like really good advice it's about time I took too. Good luck!

i miss having someone around too...It would be nice when i am struggling or having a rough time, i had someone to put their arms around me and just tell me it's going to be okay.

Yep, to have someone give you a hug because they just know you need one and to have someone in your corner when you're doubting yourself ... yeah, I miss that.

Absolutely! Sometimes I asked close friends for hugs just to get some relief..of course I hug my children a lot too. But of course these types of hugs are not the same as the reassuring and loving hugs from a partner! I think one of the hardest things to do is to shift that thinking of missing that person to happier, healthier ones. When struggling with my thoughts of longing and missing for my partner I try to buffer it with thoughts that I am a fantastic person and I deserve a wonderful relationship that will someday come. Patience my friend...your day for love, affection and security will come!!

I miss being close to someone besides my son. It usually doesn't bother me until I get in bed, after everything slows down. Yea, guys get that way too.

I agree with everyone here...and second the fact that men feel that way too. I really long for that feeling of comfort when someone who "cares" wraps you up and tells you it's all going to be ok...or holds you just to hold you...even better...