Single Parenting Support Group

When I ended my marriage 2 years ago, I also felt very alone. I work internationally and was pretty new in a new duty station with no real friends.

For me, DS--particularly the breakups and divorce group was a life saver. Just hearing that others were feeling something similar really helped me enormously.

Alcoholism was an issue in my marriage and I got involved in Alanon, which taught me new coping mechanisms and gave me hope. Therapy was useful but Alanon worked the miracles in my life.

Without knowing what happened in your marriage if there was any kind of alcohol issue--Alanon may be an option for you. IF there was any kind of co-dependency coda may also be an option for you. Good support groups and free.

The daily divorce cares email helped me a lot as well.

I am really sorry for your pain. Deep within yourself is a woman waiting to come out and create a new life for herself and her children. Will her forth from you and she will come.

((((HUGS))))

Brickhous .... COmforting hugs to you ... I understand and sympahize with you , i'm a single Mom my husband left me ,many years ago , and yet to this day he throws it in my face and takes every opportunity to THROW me 'UNDER THE BUS" so to say ...I had no support , still don't ! I have no face to face friend and on top of all of my parenting concerns i'm so very ill ... My heart goes out to you , divorce is so very hurtful , My son, NOW in his 30's still carrys the pain of his father walking out on him ! It is so very difficult to heal when the ex is throwing it in your face , BUT my friend you must go on , "PUT YOUR GAME FACE ON "" You are a strong woman , and you will make it through this bad time ! I'm here for you if you need to talk ... Keep the children in therapy, it will help ease the pain .Comforting hugs to you ... Hugs & Prayers, Jobbie

Brickhous- great screen name. Emotions can be exhausting so change your outlook. I can say because Ive been there and it took relatively 2-3 years for everyone to adjust. But girl, you have to reach down and pull yourself up by your bootstraps. Your kids are counting on you and thats all the importance now. Learn to let go and look forward, seek interests which you couldnt do before, reach out and revitalize your relationship with your extended family, dont be proud. We need family and people- their part of the equation. I write on the topic of single parenting in my blog- start with this one: http://parentingforsingles.blogspot... My fanpage will provide plenty of inspiration and knowledge that will help www.facebook.com/parentingforsingles Use the message button there confidentially if you have any questions about moving forward. Dont forget, You re the best and only mom your kids have!

You know, this is the story of my life. I feel you, i really do.
Been single now for a year and a half, he cheated on me and got her pregnant than kicked me and my daughter out ad moved her right in there! The frustration, loneliness, depression it gets to you. I also live in a very rural town there is no such thing as "support groups" or "help." I too am also poor, very poor, living with my poor parents.

I know how it feels to feel like you are alone ad that you are the only one, because physically you are. But i am kind of glad to see that i am not the only one dealing with this type of thing. The sadness is unbearable sometimes. I feel like i should have moved on by now, but i don't even want to go out and date.

I am also trying to find a positive outlet. but alcohol seems to be the winner.

I think in addition to all the other advice, it may help to keep a journal of your feelings as you go through this difficult time (it WILL pass). You'd be surprised how much it helps. Don't just write thoughts, write how you feel as well. You are going through a time of grieving (any loss is grieving,not just death) and by writing about your feelings, you transition through the process faster.
But also, as others have said, keep reaching out to others.

hi Brickhous, my heart goes out to you. I definitely do relate to you. My marriage crashed 2010 but I am still waiting for the finalization to happen. It doesn't just hurt..........It SUCKS!!!! I still write down all my anger, resentment and pain I feel inside into notebooks every night. I will one day have my own pity party or freedom party or starting over party or whatever its called And I think when that day comes............I will also have a Bon Fire so I can rid myself of all the misery her caused me at once! Giving myself a new start . Good luck. I wish you well. And cry whenever you have to. It does help sometimes.