Single Parenting Support Group

hi all i need some advise, my son had a bruise on his cheak which he got from falling onto the side of the bath i informed my son's nursery (he is 3) and when he went to his dads for contact my ex phoned social services saying he all ways goes to contact with bruises and this bruise is massive which it wasn't, my ex took my son to the doctors with out informing me and my sons social worker advised my ex to take my son to the hospital to be seen by a child doctor (cant spell the name lol) anyway i had to take my older children out of school and after 4 hours of being in hospital the doctors and social worker agreed it was by accident (basicly happend by what i and my eldest son was saying) so we went home, i am worried about every bruise my son gets now i'd NEVER hurt my son infact it was my ex who broke my son's leg a year and a half ago hence the involvment with social who (my son went into care becasue of what my ex did and i had to prove to social i am a good parent before my son could come home) are in the process of closing their case, i'd like some advise on what to do cas i am petrified of even the usual bruises a 3 year old gets, my parenting has never been a issue before and isn't with social but i am so on edge all the time, i have nightmares of my son going into care again becasue my ex convinces everyone i am beating my son etc... i knowmy ex won't get custody of him cas of what he did but i'm scared thats what he is trying for.
Also i am worried my ex is lying aboout my son having 'shaking fits' a year ago my son had a few fits but they have almost stoped apart from the odd one or two, except when he sees his dad, my son has had tests and doesnt have epelepsy which is great, but my ex has taken my son to a and e becasue he aparently had a fit for 5 to 10 mins (never happened for that long with me) and we were in hospital for hours after and my son was perfectly fine, i just think he over exsaduates (excuse spelling) or is trying to get attention my son could be given mediation in the next few months if they carry on becasue of this fit he suposivly had, oh and his new girlfriend aparently out of the blue at the weekend started having fits (roll eyes) i really am not sure what to think i really think he is attention seeking and am worried the impact it'll have on my son
the other problem i have is my ex's new girlfriend who he is engaged too after 7 months of being together is trying to get my son call her mummy, i am fuming i find it insulting considdering she has only been a part of my sons life for 3 months (bearing in mind half of that time the contact has been cut short alot or spent in hospital) and i feel i am his mum i do all the hard work 24/7 my son is a hard tot and i have been told i do a great job etc...
any advise on these issues would be great, maybe i am being over sensitive but giving what i have been through its understandable (i also want to add my ex is very emotionaly abusive)
Posted on 06/13/12, 11:48 am