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That is so sad, so sorry to hear what you are going through. I would personally take my children to counseling, to someone who is trained in that field of grieving. Also there are many great books out there (of course read them before you let your child) that might help also. And of course get grief counseling for yourself!

I'm so sorry for your loss. It's hard to loss someone you love but even harder to explain to someone that sees you as strong and brave.

There really isn't an easy way..look for Jesus to help you. God had a plan no matter how hard and awful it might seem. He will give you the peace and comfort that no other human can. For you and your children.

I am so sorry for your loss...

I guess your answers should depend on whether you are a religious person or not...

for me the answer would be that mommy had cancer and mommy fought really hard, she really wanted to stay with us but she couldn't.

I would remind them how much their mom loved them, ask them constantly who loves them, daddy, grandma, auntie and most of all who loves you, your mommy does..

I can't imagine the grief you are going through, and can only imagine how hard it is for a child to cope.

Are the kids in counselling if not I would get them in, somewhere with someone who knows what to say. You too, I would go to counselling so you can get your grief out and learn those answers you are looking for

I cant fathom losing a parent as a child. You sound like a very endearing person and I admire you for that and taking heed and being attentive and perceptive to your children's needs. I lost my mother to cancer as an adult and I miss her. Sometimes she comes to me in my dreams. I find ways to connect with her through pictures, tokens, her favorite things. Everyone mourns and grieves in different ways. I keep her bedside ceramic lamp toiled with roses on my fiance side of the bed. I display her teacup collection. I keep pictures of her with my young children around mostly for them to keep her memory, but for me also. Stay strong my man mostly for them and my very best to you. I'll put you and your children in my prayers. God love you.

I think it is best to keep it simple and truthful. We do not know why bad things happen. Sometimes they do. We hurt something awful and it is ok to hurt and miss mommy. One day we will hurt just a little less and everything will be ok.

Keep taking care of yourself and your emotions as well.

((((HUGS))))

I'm sorry to hear of your loss. There isn't much harder than trying to explain to your kids why they are missing a parent.
My 4 yr old daughter is still in shock. Honestly so am I. Her daddy (not her biological one but the only one she's known) died in sept. Sometimes we don't have a good answer.
She doesn't ask much, really only started asking the last little while because there were so many changes in our lives since then, including most of his and a lot of my family abandoning us for not having life insurance on my healthy 22yr old husband.
I found, with my daughter if I tell her daddy really wanted to stay and loves her very much... that he is always there in her heart.. It helps. Sometimes she even "talks" to him.
I could discourage that, but she needs him and I feel like it's a part of her grieving process.
The biggest thing with children is to reassure them that they are still loved and the parent who they lost didn't "Go away" because of them.
If you have a religion turn to it for more answers, or if you are spiritual find guidance from someone who shares your views. Otherwise, seek out friends and family for support if you have them.
Sometimes, it helps to just say "i don't know" to your kids and explain what you do. It also shows them it's okay to not be perfect, or just be confused here and there.

I am truly sorry for your loss. Honestly I think you need to be honest. Depending on the age. Tell her Mommy was sick and it took over. Something along those lines. Then reassure her that she is looking down on her..

That is so sad. So sorry for you and the kids loss. Maybe the best thing to say to them is "I can't answer that. For some questions there are no easy answers and I know you miss her. I do too." Also, I agree with stargone about getting counselling for yourself and the kids