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Hello new to the group. I am 24 yrs old and I am a single mother to a 1yr old little boy. I was in a relationship with his dad for almost 4yrs and he was abusive (mentally) so we broke up. He feels like he dosent have to do anything he makes at least 60,000 a yr and wont even help me out. His thing is he wants me to do everthing he tells me to do and then he will take care of his son. Why should anybody feel like that? Basically you want control over me. Why cant you be a real man and just take care of your responsibilites. Im scared to put him on child support because I am afraid he will come after me. He was threatning me a year ago saying some very disturbing things. So i feel stuck. Everybody is like he needs to be put on child support but they dont realize what type of person he is. Its so frustrating that I have to do this by myself. Then he has the nerve to be mad at me because he found out I changed my sons last name. I dont feel bad because he has disrespected my son so many times why should I name him after a man like that. When I first told him I was pregnant he avoided me for a month leaving me to go through this by myself. I was scared and didnt know what to do and he would not talk to me. He asked me why I wanted to keep the baby, told me he didnt have time in his schedule to be a daddy. Got mad at me and said something down right awful, he said that he had a son already he dosen't need another.(He has a child from a preivious relatioship)This is what type of man he is. I hate him so much right now. And I dont like to say that he is a cold hearted bastard. I just need support right now. This single parent thing is very hard.
Posted on 10/06/09, 01:10 pm |
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What could he possibly be threatening you with? What can he do? you have been the primary caretaker of him for how long now? He can do nothing to you? Go after the bastard for the money that is righly for your son! Peace, and hugs 
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There is nothing he can do to you. Get a lawyer take him to court, and get your support and costudy. If you are truly afriad your lawyer can get you a restraining order. I had to do that with my ex, I have gone through the same thing so I know how you feel. It is hard, I wish you the best *hugs*
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go after him for your child support. everytime he threatens you call the police and make a report that way if he does do something theres a paper trail that follows him. my son doesnt have his asshole alcoholic dads last name and i wasnt going to give him that last name.
i would suggest getting a lawyer and getting full custody documentation so that should your ex actually decide to set up and be a dad should he not return him on time ect you can have him charged with custodial interference. the police will not do anything unless you have the court documentation. i would tell your ex either he steps up and be a dad to yor son or sign his rights over to you and get out for good.
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I know what you are going through. My ex husband is the same way. He still tries and control everything here after we have been divorce about 11 yrs to 12 yrs. My daughter was 1 yrs old when we got our divorce and I was carrying my second child. I would just go to the family support tell them your story what you told us on here. Just give them the information an let them take care of that end. He needs to pay child support. I wouldn't be afraid of him he is just a child in mans body. He is afraid you will take him to the cleaners and ask for a lot of child support. I would if he is making $60,000.00 a year.
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