Single Parenting Support Group

Did he keep his promises when he married you?
I would get a lawyer and go to a child support enforcement agency as well, the one in your local county. Good luck hun.

i would also have to say to get a lawyer so that your child support is enforced. having custody papers stating the agreement is also good to have incase he doesnt bring your child back on time ect

i agree with rsmith. if you dont have a custody agreement drawn up he may keep your child longer and not bring her back when supossed to. my sister in law doesnt have a custody agreement and her ex took their 2 kids for what was supossed to be a week and didnt bring them back for a month.

I've been moved out for a week with my baby. Husband and I have been fighting pretty bad the last couple of days. I'm anxious about being away from her for a week. I want to know if she is going to have any new babysitters and want him to try to keep her bedtime consistent. He thinks I'm controlling of him for asking this. I found out he had let his car insurance lapse. I told him he needs to stay on top of these things as a responsible parent. He thinks I've changed. Well, I have. I will be like a bulldog on issues concerning our daughter. He can think I'm controlling all he wants as long as he is providing a safe environment for her and returns her when he is supposed to. I have a phone conference with legal aide, but not for a few weeks.

Janelle, you sound stronger now! You know whats right, your ex is just getting at you, and what better way than with a child? You definitely need some legal advice and im glad to hear you are getting it!

I did get a lawyer and spent a lot of money to draw up a separation agreement ($6000), but my ex refused to sign it, so I ended up with a divorce and no custody or child support agreement. I would have pushed it with the lawyer further but I was exhausted and barely able to keep on with day to day life. I let it go. Now I really wish there was something formal, but I am too broke to get a lawyer. So...all this to say to be careful in chosing your lawyer. If your husband is at all abusive and manipulative, he may not agree to the separation agreement.
Peace be with you and your child!

i just read that your daughter is only just over a yr old. at that age, i most certaintally would not be handing my child over for a week. that is too long for a child that age to be away from the mom. most children that age dont even get over night visits when the parents are not together. i wont allow my son to go for an overnight visit until hes well over 3 yrs of age, and even at that age it would only be for 1 night.

i think that you are giving your ex way too much at this point. you are not controlling by wanting to know if there are new babysitters or any changes in her schedule. i think what your ex is forgettting that your daughter may not fully understand whats going on , but not always seeing her dad around will be an adjustment for her as well. children thrive on routines ect, and they get just as upset if somethings not right. you need to know what she is having a hard with in order to work on the issues thats at hand.

I would get a lawyer to help you with the custody and child support issues. If you want a certain amount make sure you get what you want for the child. My ex isn't paying anything at all because of what my mom said. Well he is going to have to now because I had to get medi-cal because I don't make enough money to have the nice insurance and by law in California he has to provide the insurance but he got out of it because he had a snake in the grass for a lawyer.