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Rejected by my 13 year old son.
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My 13y.o. son prefers to live with his dad. This hurts horribly because I although I dont have the finances that his dad does, we live a good life. I love him so much and this has left a hole in my heart.His dad has alienated him from me and promotes my son to call his wife mom. I feel like its three against 1. I feel like Ive been demoted to to his aunt instead of mom. This is sooo painful.
Posted on 05/13/09, 07:05 pm |
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Im so sorry you have these feelings. My son 4.5yrs has expressed the same and it does hurt. I would suggest family counseling. For you and your son and even invite the X and stepmom. Let them know you too want the best for your son and if having three parents that not only love him but respect each other is required. If they don't agree take you son to the therapy anyways. Finally you may want to consider letting him live there and supporting him. You're the adult you have to decide the hardest things for him.
I wish you enough... 
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I’m sorry to hear that. I know the feeling of the dad having more stuff and bling trust me. What I suggest is you try to spend as much time with your son as you can, and make it as fun as you can and just all about him. Try and tell him you love him as much as you can and let him know if he ever needs to talk you’re always be there for him. Send him a card or little note every now and then telling him you love him. I do think family therapy would help too. Just remember your son loves you and eventually he will understand how much you love him. I’m sure he’s a smart kid and he’ll get it. Good luck.
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So I just posted on the other post you made, I know it hurts but dont let him see it, share stories with him of how well you doing and how you would like to do things with him (that he likes) find a bonding moment and win him back! Let him know who his real mom is! Love him no matter what and be very understanding and give your best advice. Take som time to learn this if you need to.
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Your 13 year old son wants to mimic his father. He needs a male role model right now and he needs to separate from his mom. This is a psychological development stage that you can't change or love away. The important part.... this isn't about you. As much as it hurts, as disappointed as you are try to remember that.
Love him as much as you can when you see him. Try to make the best of the situation and have a better relationship with his father as a parent. Typically speaking your son will find you once again when he needs to differentiate from his father. And, I have heard that a boy never truly leaves his mother... I know you will find peace. Hang in there and ((((((((hugs)))))))).
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