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ex verbally abusing our son :o(
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My ex-husband, who had to complete year-long anger management classes AND parenting classes, is now beginning to be verbally abusive to our son. (He was charged with misdameanor child abuse after he was reported to CPS. After 2 years of court and taking all the classes, he got 1/2 custody back) Screamed at him before his baseball game, called him stupid, embarrassed him in front of other people. I was also told by one of the coaches that he (my ex) was told to shut up during one of the games because he was yelling at our son. I am thinking about going back to court. Does anyone know what the law is regarding parenting and verbal abuse??
Posted on 03/29/09, 02:03 pm |
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not only is it verbal abuse, it is also psychological and mental abuse to treat a child that way.
I'm not sure of the law, but seems to me that more records you keep on what your son is saying he is doing, the better! I wonder too if it isn't a good idea to have your son in with a counselor..if he talks to the counselor about this it is documented form a respected neutral opinion. The courts will take those opinions and recomendations into serious concideration over anything else. I am so sorry your son is being hurt this way! My X does some of the similar with our oldest (10). It hurts to see them hurting knowing that they love thier dad so much. My daughters (8&7) won't hardly even go with him for visits now becuase of the way he talks to them. Yet, he sees nothing wrong with it. Luckily for me, he doesn't know which end is up when it comes to custody/visitation so he doesn't even question when the girls won't go with him. In fact, he has told them on more then one occasion when he came to get them and they were screaming crying not wanting to go with him "If I would have known you were going to act like this, I never would have even come to get you"..thanks for being so supportive their daddy-o!!!!! 
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Ditto to everything kidsintow said. The first thing is tp get support for your son, and ask the therapist whether they are ok with either testifying or providing information for court purposes. Not all of them are.
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therapy for sure! The courts will appoint the child an attorney that will confer with the doctor. This situation hits close to home with my brother after he came home from serving overseas. The anger was great and the courts ordered him into anger management and removed all parental rights. But first ensure your son is ok. I wish you enough...
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Thank you for the advice....I'm new here, still trying to figure out how this site works...lol... I have been writind down what happens, what my ex says to our son and what my son says about him. I may ask if he can talk to the counselor at school or maybe an outside counselor. Yes, I think I would want to get a counselor who would be willing to testify in court, the last one I took him too would not have anything to do with court.
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sounds like he needs more time in those classes, i wouldnt want my son around all that, but if hes a good dad, try and tell him that its not appropraite for him to do that and you dont like it, or maybe he would like some help and support, but once you have done all you can, the best thing is to go back to court for the sake of your child.
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