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I am a bit reluctant to post here. I am a first time father as of May. I am mostly reluctant in just how ignorant I am about a lot of parenting issues.
The mother lives in another city, and she is very good about allowing me to stay with her to visit our new daughter. I have not done a lot of research into legal matters, and have only read a few parenting books. The mother and I had broken up as a couple well before the baby was born. I guess this is one of my first toes into the water to find what I have really gotten myself into. I wanted to start off first by saying hello. Murray Posted on 10/26/09, 08:10 pm |
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couple things, first, welcome. 2nd, know you're not in this alone. 3rd, it's great that you're building a relationship with the mother from a co-parenting perspective. 4th, you could be like many other non-committal guys who just split on the woman and/or provide a support check. It's even better for you that you didn't try to make it work with this woman because she was having your child.
do all you can to be in the child's life as it seems you are. The child didn't plan to be born and it's great that you're mature and doing the right thing by the baby. Good luck you to. Stay strong and know that you're not the first nor the last this will happen to, but good for you for being there for her. 
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Thanks for the words, this sounds like a healthy place for me.
When I have not seen my daughter for a few weeks she can start to fade away in my mind, and that really frustrates me, I cannot get up to the mother's city every weekend, and the pattern is I visit and the next week back home is really hard, really missing my daughter, then the next week is a little easier with a few times of missing her horribly. I have had the flu the past two weeks and so have had to cancel two visits and it feels like I hardly remember what it is like to be with my daughter, and that scares me.
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sounds like you and your ex are on good terms, that's great. perhaps you can at least make a phone call to the ex ask her to put the baby on the phone to hear little noises and reminder her that daddy loves her..
then, try to do something nice for your ex like taking the baby for the weekend or something so she has some time to herself.
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