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I'd suggest looking into getting legal advice on what it would take to see your daughter, as I think it's imortant to the child as well as the parent that the know each other. Doesn't mean you have to enter a legal battle, but you will know your options should that change as wel as it will give you something to fight back with when taunted if you can spout a few legal phrases about just what your rights as a parent are to the ex.

This is the problem is she has the control and power and while you put up with it, she always will have. You'll be amazed at how easily it can be to disarm them sometimes.

But I would suggest that you do whatever it takes to see your daughter, as the longer she goes without knowing you the harder it will be for you both.
I seriously think I would go postal if some guy gave my child his name and stepped in as "dad".
Don't allow yourself to be a stranger to your child and don't let anyone make it so either.

That's all I can recommend.

I don't think you even NEED to wage a legal battle.
If in fact, you seek a hearing from the friend of the court in your home state area, she'll have to oblige without being in contempt of court. The only thing to be considered possibly is your lack of coming forwrad sooner as well as potentially providing for the child.

A judge may just tell you that you had to come forward sooner but, if you at least prove to yourself, and possibly the child and that you are a decent member of society, there'd be a chance that the child could at least be allowed visitation to see you. however, you also have to take into consideration of the child's feelings as in, why did you wait so long to come and see me?
What's the worst that could happen? you know the truth as does the child. don't let the mother dictate what's best here if you seriously have an interest in the child and not just to either clean up your name based on covering her lies and/or to spite what she's done to this point with the child which it doesn't seem as would be your intention.

Has a DNA test being taken. Seeing as though she got married withing 9 months of a pregnacny should raise questions. If this is not your daughter then you don't have to deal with the drama with her. I have learned that God blesses in mysterious ways. He tries to free us from things that would hurt us but like an attic, we like to hold on to things that hurt us. Even though something is killing us and we know it, we rather die having it in our hand then to let it go and live.

Do what's in your heart and soul and it will be the right decision. I have joint custody of my lovely daughter... Best thing I ever did. It's not that hard or costly in IL:

Wish you the Best

Go see your daughter, even if you have to show up unannounced at the door and she calls the cop. At least you will have a record to show the judge that you tried to see your daughter. Dont be violent about it, just be calm and exlanatory to the officer. As for court, google the stuff, get the custody disupte form from the county where you live, file for the custody hearing in Domestic/Juvinile court and make your case to the judge yourself. It will only cost you time, not money. It can be said that your daughter was not found because your ex took her around the world. But it can not be said, now that you know where she is, that you can't see your daughter cause your ex wont cooperate. Make the move and file the paperwork to start the process. I hope you will do it. I do not trust any other guy raising my daughter - you just never know what they are thinking when they sit your daughter on their lap. When it comes to our little girls, remember that "when it is not blood, you must not trust". respectfully.......