What is Shyness
Shyness is a feeling of insecurity that certain people experience while being among others, talking with others, asking favors of others, etc.
Shyness is most likely to occur...
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hey,
just started a new job, i was feeling kind of shy and nervous for the first week or so. Today i was feeling a lot more relaxed and feeling more confident, feeling yeah im finally coming out of my shell until one of my co-workers said to me, 'god you look so scared!' she was laughing and i overheard the other workers talking about this behind my back. Its so annoying, my self confidence has taken such a knock, especially as i felt that today i was being relaxed and not scared or nervous. I obviously must have come across that way even though i didn't feel it. I feel like im just going to become an outcast herein this job and just withdraw like i always do, but i really felt like i was finally coming out of my shell.... It makes me more paranoid cos sometimes i have days when i feel confident in myself but maybe i still come across shy and awkward to other people?! Soz, im kinda venting but if anyone here can relate to this or have some advice i would really appreciate it. thanks Posted on 10/19/09, 05:10 pm |
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I have really bad days at my work because the ladies I work with single me out.. They all are friends and talk about me behind my back. I feel like i'm a big outcast. I'm not mean to anyone, just shy. I've been told that because I am, it makes me an easy target. maybe that person needed someone to put down because of how they were feeling or going through. Sometimes I just wonder if people are really just hartless....But don't let that person get you down. If you are like me, days where you feel good about yourself are few and far between.. Don't let one person out of the billions in this world get you down. 
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Diogirl, your last few sentences are really powerful. those days that you do feel good, feel really good. it's really something to strive for and sometimes gives me the strength to look at the good, wonderful things in life, even if they are hard to see most of the time. I many times stop and ask myself "do you like feeling so down all the time and just how long are you going to allow yourself to feel this way ? " Sometimes it helps to get my motivation going. Hang in there, being shy is no crime, many people are, including me.
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i think people often try to cut the "new guy" down a few notches. she was probably looking for something to criticize from the moment you walked in. you have as much right to be there and socialize as she or anyone else has. remember that people who make comments like that are doing so because there's something wrong with them, not you.
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thanks tscottm, i think ur right and thats a good way of thinking. Youve made me feel a lot better about myself!
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