Shyness Support Group

You hardly think its possible for a guy to like you this is probably true if you believe it... I bet if you started with this and turned it around inside your head to think that it would be impossible for guys not to like you (and lived it) you'll end up with many options on who you would like to be intimate with.. before you know it!

A quote I always find helpful is "your head creates your world" (Stephen Covey)...It's SO true.

And well if that fails... I'm a great kisser, look me up lol

Hey I know exactly how you feel.
I am almost 20 years old and am now a sophomore in college. I never even held hands with a girl before. I know how horrible it can feel. I also feel that I'm falling way behind everyone else.
But, don't lose all hope just yet. No matter how much society can make it seem, there is no definite age someone should have a boyfriend/girlfriend.
You'll never know when that special someone might show up.

i so hear you on this. i had a girlfriend for a few weeks in grade seven and then not until i was a senior in college. my first kiss with that second girlfriend was anything but smooth but once it had happened i felt like the weight of the world was off my shoulders. i didn't have sex until i was 25 but i'm now married and we have 2 beautiful daughters. my marriage isn't great right now but i don't feel like i could never find someone to love me and be intimate with me any more. i don't think there is ever a point when it's too late to get comfortable with this stuff. i know you can do it so don't give up.

I can relate somewhat here. All my friends had boyfriends left and right.. I've kissed only 1 or two boys but not romantic kissing until I was 18, and it was with my now husband. I dated 2 guys in my life...a guy who i was set up with for a double date... He hardly talked to me the whole time.... never called or spoke to me since.... The other is my husband. I've never technically been asked out on a date.. It was me being set up by friends.. I really don't think it matters how many guys/girls you date or kiss... What matters is when you meet "The One" You can date 100 people and never find that special someone..All that seems superficial to me. These friends I had in school who when out all the time with guys.. not a single one of them are happily married, or have found that special someone.. I have. Hang in there. That special person who cares enough to see the real you and get to know you will show up. Maybe he has never kissed a girl, and is just waiting for you to show up in his life!

I can relate, how much I wanted and waited for that to happen, but once I did I didn't know how to connect and broke it off, and this happened twice with the same person, and I had a lot of regret about that.

When I got older I had a lot of boyfriends.

What I learned is when we're looking to other people outside of ourselves to validate us, we're in trouble. No one but ourselves can make us feel good, acceptable, ok AS IS. It takes work. Maybe our family didn't help us with this. I went into school for psychology and read a lot of self help and I have gotten into counseling and 12 step programs and I am learning that I have to learn how to be someone "I" like - otherwise how can someone else like me? That way, if someone else likes me - and there are many levels to that - personality, physically, socially, spiritually, emotionally - it is icing on the cake. I have to have a relationship with myself first before I can be honest and real with someone else. I used to spend so much energy "appearing" ok to others, but it didn't work because no matter how much attention I got from the outside, it could not change how much I disliked or didn't love myself.

It has been a long journey and I hope I made some sense.