What is Shopping Addiction
Oniomania (also known as shopping addiction or shopaholism), is the compulsive desire to shop. Although not a DSM-IV recognized disorder, oniomania has recently received increased ...
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Ok. I've already said I'm a shopping addict. That said, I have run into a bit of trouble because of my horrible and impulsive habits, mainly with my checkbook!!! Arrrhhhgg! Seriously, I have written checks without totally knowing my balance, as my spending was quickly getting out of control during a spending binge (my daughters 1st birthday bash didn't help matters of spending), and now my bank account is going into the red as we speak, with a ton of NSF fees to boot. The bad part? My husband won't bail me out this time. He knows my problem. I tried to hid it, but he couldn't take it anymore, my spending was and is out of control. So he had me get my own account to shield our regular account from my shopping. So my account then got out of control because I was writting checks like it was a credit card.
I don't know what to do. He won't help me, because he says I need to learn this hard lesson and get out of this mess the hard and slow way. He thinks if he puts money into my account, this episode will be a blip on my radar screen and I'll continue like "normal". So here I am. Broke. But with a loving and supportive husband who just wants me to get better. Posted on 07/26/08, 10:07 pm |
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I have been in your shoes a ton of times. It's just so hard. You are not alone. I had to go get loans from those local places against my paychecks which made things even worse. I haven't had to do that for a few years but that's only because I switched to credit cards instead and now I'm way in debt. Hang in there, we have to find a away to get through this and cure this disease. People don't look at it that way, but that's what it is. I still don't know why I do it and may never know. I think I'm trying to fill some void and the "rush". I don't know. Thinks will work out. If you need to talk, please send me a note anytime. We need to support each other. I could use any and all people in my life going through the same thing as myself. People who understand me and know what's it's like. Hope you're ok. 
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Thanks.
I am actually thinking of closing the darn account after I'm caught up. I've had to pay about $200.00 in fees. What's up with that? And what a waste of money. Much better spent on clothes. Hhahah. Ok. bad humor. So I won't have any money for quite some time. Then I'm not writing another check. I'm only dealing with cash. The funny thing is with this disease we fight...is I look like a very well put together normal and highly functioning person. I don't think anyone would think I have this problem. This is really the only vice that I fight really. I'm not into alcohol, drugs, anything else, gambling no...just shopping. It's a release for me. A rush. A treat to make me feel better. I don't even have to be feeling bad to shop. I can be in the best mood and do it too. So it's not depression. I do have bipolar disorder however. Does anyone else have this too? I am on medication for it. If I go off of it, the shopping gets even more out of hand...dangerously so.
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do have bipolar disorder however. Does anyone else have this too? I am on medication for it. If I go off of it, the shopping gets even more out of hand...dangerously so. "
My guess is that a lot of us have something...many times it's anxiety-related. I was diagnosed with OCD. I guess the shopping can be thought of as a compulsion. I am also on medication. I understand what you mean when you say that you shop when you are in a good mood as well. So do I....but I think I need to start monitoring my feelings more in terms of how I feel immediately before i have the desire to shop and notice if there is a pattern. Maybe keeping a journal specifically for this would be a good idea.
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you have a awsome husband! hang in there!
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i am having a bit of this problem as well. I alsway think that I am so stupid and yes I can add but when the "shopping monster" takes over tis BAAD!! --I had to do a payday loan-that is insane. Hang in there you have a good husband-mine not so much
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We are all having the same problem. My husband has bailed me out a hundred times but I dont think this time he is going to. And I have payday loans but I have vowed to stop and live within my means and I hope we can all help out each other by reporting our progress who would ever know this would be so hard. I am praying to god to help me and everybody who is suffering from our addictions.
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i am new to this site but my ears pricked up when i saw that u were diagnosed with bi polar me 2 i wonder if its ok 2 share with u as i would like to try and get this sorted i really wish u well
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It is so easy for us overspenders to spend in an attempt to make ourselves or others happy. We can experience joy and help others experience joy without spending. How? I'm still learning that.
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New CW series looking for SHOPAHOLICS
I just thought this might be something of interest to the members of this forum. There’s a new show on the CW called Secrets that is seeking out women 18-24 who are forced to lead a double life between their professional life and their compulsive shopping disorder. The purpose of the show is to provide these women with an outlet to address this issue so as to receive the help they secretly want and desperately need. If this sounds like something you would be interested in just go to www.cwsecrets.com to apply. Hope this finds someone who could really benefit from this show!
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