Sexually Transmitted Diseases - Female Support Group

for me personally the dirty feeling will never go away, and the feeling that no one will ever want me will ever go away. its just so hard to feel pretty or even wanted anymore, it is such a struggle for me for the past 3years. i have bit of support from a family member that tells if the person loves you, whomever you would be hopefully they would be understanding

I didn't know there's a difference between HPV and herpes. I need to read info on this.

I have to say I feel hopeless and scared for the future too ever since I was diagnosed with genital warts. I believe you have to stay positive in your outlook though and feeling like a victim won't empower you. We have to believe that our health will get better and that the right partner will understand. After all, we aren't the only ones. I read about other people who tell their boyfriends and it works out ok for them. Also, maybe our immunity will be able to fight this off - even herpes outbreaks can become less or even stop. Hang in there - we aren't bad, dirty people.

Yes things happen for a reason, and we all make mistakes and some that makes our lives a lot harder, God has a reason for everything, and he would never give you more then you can handle.

I cant say I know how you feel, I have only had 2 partners but the second was an affair, an unprotected affair, her husband slept with more people then i can count, I didn't even think about that. I count myself lucky, but I could have also got something.

I cant speak for most men, but know that if i was seeing any of you and you told me, it wouldn't cause me to walk away, wouldn't make me want you less, If I loved you it wouldn't matter to me, its a part of you that cant be changed. Be and Think positive there will be someone out there that will love you for you and the little things wont matter.

{{{hugs prayers & smiles}}}
Michael

One silver lining of Std's is that it most of the time drives people to take better care of themselves, which might not have been happening before infection. Don't let std's define who you are. I have felt that dirty feeling just as I was diagnosed with HPV...but it went away after I asked my doctor about it and he told me he had it, his wife had it, and about 80% of the population has it, and that usually the human body will clear up the infection from a few months to a few years later. There are many treatments as well and you can have a normal sex life if you so choose.

Sounds like you need a spa day or a manicure! Do something good for yourself. Nourish your body with healthy food. Go and get a massage. Get a new hair color or cut. Do something that makes you feel good. And never ever let an std define who you are. You can have herpes and still be sexy! absoluely! You just have to take real good care of yourself .

I hope I have helped if even just a bit. *hugs*

Amanda...that was really encouraging....I have 2 strand of HPV and HSV1 and I feel like I can never tell anyone I like or they will walk away..I've struggled some with my weight lately too and just feel, fat, ugly and like I'm damaged goods...all guys want is sex and when you can't put out or can put out too much they kick you too the curb...I know these people aren't right for me, but where are the good ones...? The more time I spend alone and not focusing on relationships the more I feel good about who I am...but when I want to pursue some one I feel like I have nothing to offer...it's really hard and it's definately more mental...my physical condition really is not that bad. the warts are much worse then the HSV and if I didn't have any symptoms I would be ok with this being in my body....I think having support of people who know and love you anyway is the best thing for you