What is Sexually Transmitted Diseases - Female
Sexually transmitted diseases (STDs) - also known as sexually transmissible diseases, sexually transmitted infections (STIs) or (infrequently) venereal diseases (VD) - are diseases...
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Herpes and Abortion and Life
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While my life in general is lovely - my relationship/sex life is in complete shambles.
I dated a guy I thought I was in love with for five months. During the fifth month, I realized that we certainly were NOT made for each other, and right before I had decided to end our relationship, I found out I was pregnant with his kid. A week after this news is found out to me [and subsequently, him], I break up with him, because our connection to each other had not improved at all. A week later, I find out that I seem to have contracted the herpes that he said he may or may not have [during one of the last times we had sex, he neglected to tell me he was having an outbreak.] After a lot of thought and some very tough decision-making, I have an abortion at twelve weeks pregnancy. It's been three weeks since my abortion, and I've been developing a close friendship with a guy [who wishes to date me], and have realized that I don't have any libido left. My attraction to people, and sex, and all that fun stuff is completely gone. I'm curious on whether it's more likely the abortion after-effects, dealing with the fact I probably have herpes [I still have to get tested, but I have to work up the courage, as I have a fear of doctors], or if I am finally unsuppressing my bad luck with guys [being raped and losing my first child to a miscarriage because of that event, being violently beaten by a guy who had a bit too much to drink, being sexually assaulted in my sleep two and a half weeks ago by an aquaintence.] Either way, I'm not quite sure how to continue my life from here. Posted on 09/21/09, 05:09 pm |
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Wow, seems like your going through alot at once. Well something like that happened to me to, well not exactly but I mean all at once. The way I coped with everything is...these things are happening to you for a reason, whatever the reason you may not know yet. But what you do is, just slow down on everything, take long thoughts about what you are doing know, what you can do to change it and make it better. I'm the type of person that learns things the hard way, well it hasnt always been the best cause I too contracted herpes. Though I still don't know how to cope with it yet (at times) I know I got it because I was moving too fast and not caring about anything. I got pregnant at 14, didn't learn my leason, kept having unprotected sex, got herpes at 19. Though I didn't have too many sex partners, I kept playing with fire, and now, man have I slowed down. Makes me think twice about everything I do now. Herpes is a pain, and I would never want to do what that guy did to me, he too never mentioned anything about his STD. (Asshole!) Sorry, had to throw that in there. Hope this helped a bit. 
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I'm sorry for everything, well just take your time with this new guy. Really see what he's about and you also need to time to heal from everything that's goin on.
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