What is Sexually Transmitted Diseases - Female
Sexually transmitted diseases (STDs) - also known as sexually transmissible diseases, sexually transmitted infections (STIs) or (infrequently) venereal diseases (VD) - are diseases...
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So I can't seem to explain to people why I don't see guys. Although they may be cute or what not, why don't I have a boyfriend. I am lonely, people see that and then they wonder.Should I tell them about my experience? I recently had this type of conversation with a girl that I thought/think is my friend. The conversation came up, I told her my last boyfriend did me wrong, she kept pressing for information and then saying that everyone goes through something, dadadada. Then she was like well at least whatever happened to you is not as bad as what happened to my cousin, she got HIV and is dying. Well although I don't have that, it's the same topic, I didn't say anything and just agreed. I think she figured it out, will all these questions she was asking, though I diddn't actually say it. So as I was leaving her house, it felt like she was shoving me out the door. I haven't called her, and neither has she. I think she may be disgusted of me. It feels good to tell someone (I didn't really, but I should have) but it hurts to be looked as disgusting, but to be honest, that is how I feel.DISGUSTING!!
Posted on 09/09/09, 01:09 am |
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I understand how you are feeling. If she really is your friend she is not going to think of you that way. She will see that you are hurting and try to help. All my friends have been very supportive and understanding. It's hard to talk about because I will never view dating the same way again. I have 2 types of HPV and HSV 1....the warts are probably the worst of it and are very annoying. I met a great guy however you thinks i'm totally amazing and he knows what I have. He has been a shoulder to cry on and a friend and a lover....This does not define who you are and you have to convince yourself of that first....honestly, I see this as a blessing from God. He changed my behavior in an instance. I never considered myself prominscuous but I was looking for love in all the wrong places. take care of you first. You will know who you can and can't tell and if you feel like you can't, then maybe you shouldn't keep those people so close. It's a filtering system for who should really be in your life. I know how it feels to think you are disgusting and that no one will ever want you...but take this and grow from it and take care of your body, cuz the healthier you are the sooner your life will go back to normal. Hang in there 
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First of all I would like to say that you do not have tell anyone what is going on with you, or what your experience was. I am recently having similar problems. I don't have a boyfriend and people wonder why, and I can not explain to them what happened and why it is so hard. It is important that you have at least one person you can trust, but I would only trust someone you would trust with anything. The girl you told sounds like she hurt you, and a true friend and some one that you trust would not hurt you. When you find the right person to tell they will be supportive and not think of you any differently, and they definitely will not shove you out the door or look at you like you are disgusting. So as far as the people that notice you are lonely and ask why you don't have a boyfriend tell them what you feel comfortable sharing with them, whether it be saying it just is not the right time, or telling them your story. But I would only reccomend doing what you are comfortable with.
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You're not disgusting at all! And don't tell that friend of yours. She'd probably end up talking your business. I know its hard but get yourself together and get back out there and date. You're not a leper. More people have gotten an std or have a permanent one like herpes than you realize. You're one of the braver ones because you actually talk about it. Be strong and know that you're not alone
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