What is Sexually Transmitted Diseases - Female
Sexually transmitted diseases (STDs) - also known as sexually transmissible diseases, sexually transmitted infections (STIs) or (infrequently) venereal diseases (VD) - are diseases...
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So... trying to make a long story short. A couple days ago I had a "one-night stand" with this one guy. He was incredibly pushy and I "fought" him on all of his attempts to move things forward but every time he over powered me. I don't feel raped but he was pretty forceful. Anyway, it got to the point where we ended up having sex. Without a condom. I don't even want to write that - I feel pissed off at myself and I suddenly feel like crying. Anyway, I don't know what to do. I don't have health insurance and I'm only 21, living with my parents while in between school. I'm really scared and embarrassed. I've never had anything such as sex (or even fooling around) with anyone but boyfriends (and there's only been 3 of those before this one.) I feel disappointed in myself that this happened, especially since there was no protection (I'm on birth control at least but still.....). On top of that, it wasn't really a decision on my part but I don't want to really talk about. I feel like everyone's just going to think I put myself into whatever position when I really felt like I had little choice in the matter. I can't talk to anyone else about this, I'm just too embarrassed. I'm really scared though. Anyway, to the question... Should I take my next paycheck to planned parenthood and use the little money I have to get tested... Any idea how much it will be without insurance? I know I'll find that out there but... I'm just scared and need some kind of sense of what's coming next. There's no waiting period for anything except for HIV, right? Will the people do the proper amount of tests as long as I'm honest? Will I even be able to afford treatment without insurance? Because I don't have insurance would it be better to wait until January/February when I will have it again or is it definitely a do right away thing? Any other information/advice is greatly appreciated - I feel really alone in this situation. And I really have no one to talk to about it....
Posted on 09/07/09, 05:09 pm |
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There should be some kind of help for you... I would suggest getting checked out ASAP! Don't feel bad about what happened you're not a slut and it doesn't make you any less of a person... things happen and the longer you wait the more stressed you will become... STI's are not the end of the world but i wish you the best of luck 
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Thanks, things are a bit more complicated then I wrote here. (I just feel like yesterday was so long ago and that this is written badly based on what I realized but.. anyway.) Thank you, I'm definitely going as soon as I can. I would go now if I could. Thanks for the support. =)
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I don't know where you live but here they have a public health clinic, the family planning has a program called take charge and it's free if you qualify, which it sounds like you do. I got my birth control and testing through them for free for years. I paid maybe $50 the whole time I was going there for whatever it was, I used to get UTI's A LOT....anyway, check out and see if there is something like that. Planned parenthood does charge for stuff... but look into the take charge program. There is a waiting period on all standard tests except pregnancy tests. but usually they will only call if they find something, otherwise just assume you are fine. You know that what happened was not your choice and I know guys can be forceful. Just take charge of your life and don't let it happen again. Stand strong and you will be fine...the guy was a jerk for not respecting you pushing him away...no one needs an asshole like that. hang in there
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Not to go against what your first reply said, but STD's come and vary from person to person, but I only have herpes, which is not suppose to be all that bad with time, but if you can avoid STD's....what are you doing? I would not wish this on my worst enemy, (not that I have any, I hope) but please, please don't do it again. And if oyur gonna have sex, make sure it's only one and you've been checked, some STD's don't appear til 3 months later, trust me though, if your both clean, it will be worth the wait. Take care. I wasn't trying to be mean at all if I came out that way.
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I do not know what exactly happened to you and I respect your privacy. But I would reccomend that you go get tested as soon as it is possible for you to go. I also would reccomend that you not be active until you have been seen and been tested. But also keep in my mind that some things do not show up right away. So I would reccomend that you be checked when you have any unusual symptoms.
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