What is Sexually Transmitted Diseases - Female
Sexually transmitted diseases (STDs) - also known as sexually transmissible diseases, sexually transmitted infections (STIs) or (infrequently) venereal diseases (VD) - are diseases...
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i am thinking of breaking up with my bf for these reasons
i don't feel anything for him i been told that could be the depression but even on a good day i don't feel nothing. i think its more than just depression. i feel i've moved on in every way emotionally outside of leaving him cuz if i hadn't grown apart from him i'd feel something. anyway he has two kids already but never seems them he got custody but gave temp custody to his aunt so she could care for them. all he does is talk to them on the phone. he don't visit them he don't go by buss or ask his friend that takes him places to go up to see his kids or nothing. his last excuse was that with health problems he is having now he coudln't handle the kids well i'm pregnant with a baby that will need just as much attention as those kids need that he aint able to provide :( plus i feel like he treats me like a fucking kid as if i was his kid or something like tells me what he thinks i should do and blah blah cuz then says he just wants whats best for me and thats why he gets upset with me over stuff but in reality he aint my boss or my parent and i feel that he acts like i'm a kid. anytime we talk about something where he gets sick of topic he will say forget it or leave it or i dont' want to talk about it any more or whatever. how do i know he won't do the same thing when it comes to are kids that when we have to talk about the baby that he wont' just be like whatever or be avoid shit. another thing he tries to say is i know what i'm doing about pregnancy's and that he has experience with kids so that he has been threw this before cuz he tried to play know it all with pregnancy at times. from what i can tell he can't take care of his kids and even though his family is taking care of them he doesn't visit cuz he says he can't handle them. he dont' do nothing for them but talk on the phone once in while which ok if you back it up with visiting or something but damn. there's just so much going on that i just don't think i should be with him i feel as though i dont' feel nothing for him plus when i add positives and negatives i keep coming up with negatives. however my fear is that i have gential herpes and pregnant who would want someone with a baby and an std isn't it hard to find someone that wants someone who has a baby already let alone an std on top of that. i dunno i'm feeling very anxious,scared and insecure what do you guys think??? Posted on 07/28/09, 05:07 am |
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If you feel this way now, trust me, it wont get any better. My best friend told me when I was pregnant with my first child to leave my crappy boyfriend then because it would be easier on my child in the long run. She was right. I now have 2 sons by that crappy x boyfriend. When I finally left him a year ago my oldest son was affected the most. My x also had a son from a previous relationship and he always said he wanted to catch up with him. He never put forth an ounce of effort. No child support, no phone calls, no nothing:( I guess it was better for the child anyways, because he was already like 8 years old and my x would have never put forth the right amount of effort. That should have been a huge sign for me and it was but I was so young and stupid. He was also 15+ years older than me and manipulated me in the beginning. For so many years I felt nothing for him. Never even wanted to touch him. He felt the same. After locking me out, yelling at me constantly, and telling me to get the fuck out every day, I lost all respect for him. For a while I wanted to stay with him for the boys, but turns out our relationship was extremely unhealthy for them. My sons started acting out and my youngest barely had anything to do with his dad. There is light at the end of the tunnel. I have 2 kids and HSV 1 & 2. Pretty unpleasant huh:( I still amazingly found the love of my life. Didn't find out about genital herpes until about 3 months ago. We both have it. I'm guessing I gave it to him. Through it all we are more in love than we have ever been. We are doing a detox right now and can't make love for a while, but I think it has just really confirmed how IN LOVE we are. Keep your head up and don't take any crap!!! When I birthed my second son, my x wasn't even there. I didn't care to have him there. One of my best girlfriends was there and it was such an amazing birth. Completely natural, minimal pain, and only 4 pushes. Stay strong and keep me posted. Much love:) 
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why do you think you have herpes? don't sell yourself short....STD's aren't end of the world you just have to learn to take care of yourself so it's not an issue. If you're having outbreaks all the time that's a different story. If I had no physical symptoms at all i would be ok with knowing it was in my body...just be secure in who you are and be a great mom...some one will see that and will love your kid as their own....you're setting yourself up for disappointment if you don't get out....I know they say stay together for the kid but it doesn't seem like he would be much of a father anyway, take care of you and that baby that's all that matters right now
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"my fear is that i have gential herpes and pregnant who would want someone with a baby and an std"
I got herpes from my boyfriend cheating on me while I was pregnant. I stuck with him for 3 more years, even though I knew it wasn't right for me because of the SAME FEAR!!! When I did start dating again, you know what I found? I had to beat the guys off with a stick! I would date for a good long while before telling them or becoming sexual in any way that would put them in danger. When I told them (there were 3 I dated long enough to get to this stage) they were extremely supportive and sweet... then they proposed! All 3 of them within 6 months of dating! It showed them that they could trust me, and made them realize that they were willing to commit to something like that forever. It also helped me not get into relationships with anyone who I didn't trust and love enough to tell or who were too shallow to see past something like that. NEVER let fear keep you in a relationship that is unhealthy for you. Herpes was a gift for me!
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for the comment that asked why i think i have herpes i don't think i know i have it i have had it since i was 21 the first boyfriend i really had gave it to me then left me to go back to his ex the weekend of my 22 b day. then i had out break shortly after all that.
anyways thanks for advice all but he does call his kids and says he is gonna try and visit um. he seems ga ga over this baby. i think with me its just hormones and shit. anyways were still together we broke up for day or two then got back together. so we will see what happens. but thanks all for your imput
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Just don't sell yourself short. I'm all for trying every avenue to try to make it work when you have children, but I hope you don't feel like you have to stay because no one else would want you.
On the topic of your pregnancy, are you taking medication to control it? Have you talked about it with your doctor? I was diagnosed 2 days before my due date, so I had to have a c-section right away (I had my initial outbreak.) I was SOOOO scared, but baby was and is (at 6) VERY healthy.
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