What is Sexually Transmitted Diseases - Female
Sexually transmitted diseases (STDs) - also known as sexually transmissible diseases, sexually transmitted infections (STIs) or (infrequently) venereal diseases (VD) - are diseases...
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So I have been seeing this guy for the last month or so and when we first started talking he told me that a deal breaker for him was STD's....he's a nice guy but I don't really see us going anywhere. I am enjoying his company and we have fooled around a little but no sex. Well the other day he wanted to have sex and I said no and he was fine with that, but I realized that things may be moving faster than I thought. I told myself I wasn't going to tell anyone about this that it wouldn't affect, but if he's touching me down there I guess he has a right to know right? i don't want to not hang out with him, but I'm afraid that he won't want to talk to me at all. I know that would mean he's not right for me, but I guess I just enjoy having some one to fill my time....so what do you think? should I tell him? I'm supposed to be doing that herpes resolve detox here pretty soon, what if it works and I'm cured? should I wait till I'm done with that to tell him? that's what my plan originally was...I hate having to talk about this, especially with guys, what do you think I should do?
Posted on 04/08/09, 11:04 am |
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If you plan on getting intimate with this person...be honest. They have the right to decide for themselves if they want to take that chance with their health. Honesty shows them you love and respect them. 
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well by saying being intimate do you mean sex or any kind of contact...cuz we have fooled around some but no sex and his penis has not touched that area or any oral....do you think touching is pushing it too even if they are washing their hands immediately afterward? I have made it clear I don't want sex at this point, mainly cuz I'm not ready to tell him, part of me thinks he's not ready to hear it....so if I tell him now and he runs because of it or I wait till he likes me for me and tell him? I don't want him to see a disease, I want him to see me
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His fingers penetrate your private areas. That is a risk. In "my" opinion, if you are getting physical with someone, they have the right to know.Maybe they will choose to walk away...but maybe they will care enough to stay. They will have more trust in you for handling it this way.
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yeah, I was planning on tell him and then he told me he only wanted sex and wouldn't put me through that....so obviously he respects me enough not to play me but since things aren't going anywhere I decided not to tell him...maybe someday if we continue to be friends but for now, it's a huge relief off my shoulders..I'm starting my detox tomorrow and I'm so hoping it works
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I had that problem once, but my boyfriend cheated on me. You should use Valtrex it works great !!! it cleared up in 3 weeks
I tried all kinds of medications
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I am an honest believer in telling. Do tell, no reason to keep it a secret. Will benefit all. And if he leaves, well it's his problem not yours.
I tell straight from the beginning. But, that's me. Very straight forward and honest. Leave no room for regrets.
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thanks, I appreciate your input
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