What is Sexual Abuse
Sexual abuse is a relative cultural term used to describe sexual relations and behavior between two or more parties which are considered criminally and/or morally offensive. Differ...
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My sister is about become a young mother. She's hooked up with a guy she's only known for a year. He always his friends in out of the apartment, and his large family.
My problem is my sister seems to be too trusting. She's telling she is willing to let her baby father's male friends babysit the baby. These are men she doesn't know all that well. She thinks its okay because they have 'kids'. In my mind it doesn't mean anything. Just beacause somebody appears to lead a normal life doesn't mean you should leave them around your child. These sick people who harm others are usually able to hide their true nature. How can I make her understand, the hidden dangers here? I don't want to seem too paranoid. She is unware of what happened to me as child, I don't want her suspecting anything. Posted on 11/08/09, 09:11 pm |
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She is too trusting. I understand where you are coming from. Child abuse is way to prevalent for people to turn a blind eye. It's our nature to want to protect all the children we can. You are not paranoid. Perhaps you should have a talk with your sister. If you are not ready to tell her about your abuse, then tell her you know so many people who have suffered from sexual abuse that you are just concerned for the safety of the baby. That's all you can do. We can't save everyone, but we can educate as best we can. and then just pray for God to protect that child! 
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I totally agree with you, abuse is so common no one can take chances with kids. Unfortunately not even family can be trusted, in fact quite often it is a family member who abuses. Its hard for you to talk to your sister without arousing her suspicions. You could say you were doing a random search online and came across a child abuse site that says 25% Or so of children are sexually abused and most of these by someone known to the child etc or you could say you came across a pamphlet somewhere stating facts on child abuse. The only other thing you can do is be close to your niece or nephew and teach them from a young age what is inappropriate touching and they can talk to you anytime about anything. Of course you cant tell them too much without your sisters permission because she is the mum.
Do a search yourself for abuse websites so you can show your sister these if she asks. I dont know of ones in canada.
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You could also say that you have a friend who told you she was sexually abused and out of interest you looked in to the subject. This may involve a bit of lying though which I dont know if you are comfortable with.
I know speaking out about abuse is hard. I was abused by my dad and this involved intercourse. My family knew of earlier molestation but I couldnt tell them about the other abuse for several years after it ended. I was really scared but so glad I told. Ihated keeping the secret. They were very supportive. If you are close to your sister then maybe you could consider telling her but it may be upsetting so perhaps wait till after the birth.
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