What is Sexual Abuse
Sexual abuse is a relative cultural term used to describe sexual relations and behavior between two or more parties which are considered criminally and/or morally offensive. Differ...
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I have been trying to write a letter to send to my abuser of seven years. I want to tell him how he stole everything from me and destroyed the person I could have been. I already "confronted" him on the phone year & half ago, and by his response, he sounded contrite (said he "couldn't help himself..") I stammered some weak repsonse, but he just didn't get it, and I never got anything near an apology. I need a letter that is self-empowering, yet doesn't draw me into a lot of negative & angry energy, which is exhausting. I intend to send it, because for me, that is the only way I can heal, (though the psychs tell you not to send, jus write for yourself, it's just not good enough unless I send it.) Many Thanx in advance! Posted on 11/07/09, 04:11 am |
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I am certainly not a doctor of any kind so advise is way out of my league but I can tell you what I did....
I am 44 years old and my abuse started when I was around 9, continuing til I married just after I turned 17. I never truly confronted my abuser but I did write a note. It simply read: " I have carried the hurt and guilt for far too many years. It's now YOUR burden to bare as it should have been from the start. May God bless you!" Many years passed before our paths crossed but just this past year upon arrival home from work, he was in the driveway and he walked up to me, ask if he could hug me (which I allowed) and began to cry out an appology for all he had done to me. (there need not be details spoke of because he and I both knew what he had done) It took him more years to give me the appology than it took me to give him the guilt back. Though I still hurt for the little girl that I was, I would not change my life and who I am today. I dont have a relationship with my abuser but my heart doesnt sink to my toes at the mention of his name anymore and if I run into him in the store, I can say hello without my heart breaking and going into total panic. That simple note written many years ago was the beginning of healing for me. Hope you find your way to heal as well! Love in Christ! 
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