Sexual Abuse Support Group

No, its normal I thikn. I do the same thing. Maybe you could lock your doors when your changing. I always feel like Im being watched. My bedroom has two huge windows in it and you can see everything from outside. So what I did to cure mine was Change my clothes in the middle of the room, and smile while your doing it. You just have to get used to it. Be comfortable with your body. Its a long road but you have to make it, Im really sorry you feel like that. I wish we could all just make the memories and the feeling vanish. Good luck with everything!

One thing you can also try is getting a wage door stopper You put it under the bottom of your door so it can't be open. Just make sure you take it out when your done dressing or sleeping in case of fire so you can get out. You can get them at a hardware store. I hope this helps.

I do that, too, but I live with five other people and have no doorknobs or locks on our doors, so I can't close it all the way or lock it. We also have only one bathroom, and people don't think anything of going to the bathroom while you're in the shower. I feel so bare and vulnerable.

Not weird at all. It's very normal. Your body is your temple and you have had to protect it. You may have also been on high alert for most of your childhood, increasing the anxiety now.

Is it something you want to change?

Nope it is totally normal! I was the same way, and probably would still be if it were not for the fact that I seem to always be hot even in the middle of winter. I would go to bed fully clothed and while sleeping take everything off. My husband liked this!!! :) However I eventually in time and with therapy got to a place of being able to just go to bed with out the need to put pj's on first. I think that when someone is abused the way we were we begin to view our bodies as bad, shameful, sinful etc. So we cover up, and we fear that if we do not cover up someone will hurt us again. It takes time to get over this. So give your self time and know that you are normal!

Hugs, Leanne

i TOTALLY understand your fear of being walked in on.

also, for me, if i'm in a situation where my sisters are around and getting changed (no nudity, just changing outer clothes) i get all freaked out. i HAVE TO make some sort of excuse and go in the bathroom or leave the room. then i change super quick whereever i've gone to.

a gym bathroom is the worst. OMG!!!!!!!!! i try to get mostly covered "in the shower" or better yet either go home to take a shower, or i go at off times, when hardly any one is there. still... there is the fear of getting walked in on.

i only ever feel safe when my ENTIRE family is out of state, and i have all the doors locked with the burglar alarm set...

sigh...

I'm the same way, But i hate being naked in general even if i am alone.

I have the same paranoia. I'm unable to use locker rooms, public bathrooms, or other family's showers. I'm afraid of being watched.