What is Sexual Abuse
Sexual abuse is a relative cultural term used to describe sexual relations and behavior between two or more parties which are considered criminally and/or morally offensive. Differ...
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I kept coming back to him just to feel loved. I kept sitting on his lap. I kept letting him hug and touch me. I kept letting him rub himself on me. I let him do all of that, then, when he took me to the bedroom, it was too late to turn back. It was my fault. It was all my fault.
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Hugs! I have felt this way too... and sometimes it's hard to turn it around and actually place the blame where it belongs. HE did it to you. HE knew better than to do this, and HE is in the wrong. Not you. Ok? He took advantage of your trust. And you shouldn't have had to endure that. Not your fault! 
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It wasnt your fault, you were a child, you are not to blame, he was the adult, he used you for his own selfish reasons, dont blame yourself, he is the one to blame. I felt the same way as a child, was the only love i got, the love I needed, it was wrong, but I wanted love, I feel so much shame over what I allowed to happen, the only feeling from the past i have, the rest is locked away. So dont blame your self, you are the victom, we are all here to support you.
{{{hugs prayers and smiles}}}
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Not your fault. Abusers prey on the naivety of children.
I'll bet you anything he knew exactly what he was doing, whereas you didn't. I felt this way too. You can change the perception. I think it's awesome you posted this. What he did is against the law. It is a criminal offense.
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i know this one to well
no one loved me they said they did but they didnt it all became the secreat and then the door slamed shut the truth is all of this was THEM NOT YOU You were just an on looker really it was all THEM everyone wants to be loved everyone wants to be needed some people take that from palces they should not go BUT IT IS ALL THEM you were there but it was THEM ! yes you felt they care or something but thats normal THEY were the ones not normal you were just you all this was passive really they are the only ones with guilt and shame you were just being human and most normal of all
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Not your fault.....NEVER your fault....(((HUGS)))
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I agree with what everyibe else has said, no matter what it was and never will be your fault but i know somewhat how you are feeling because i was just talking to my counsellor today about feeling like it was my fault that i should have done more to stop it or shouldnt have done certain things, but she explained that no matter what it was and never was my fault (nor was it yours) because an adult took it upon themselves to hurt you even though they knew it was WRONG!!
Please be kind to yourself and be gentle with yourself as you move through your healing journey and learn to place the blame wiere it belongs WITH HIM If you ever need or want to talk im here NAtty
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I have felt the same way before and it is definitely difficult to turn that thought process around. You were a small child and obviously very vulnerable, perhaps even need of love and attention. You did not make the conscious choice to let yourself be abused. Please realize that whoever it was that abused you took advantage of your vulnerability.
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You didn't do it. The people who did it are the people who made you feel like you had to "pay" for love. Love is supposed to be free. You had the right to be loved unconditionally as a child but the people around you hurt you. You didn't deserve to be treated that way. They did it, not you.
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