What is Sexual Abuse
Sexual abuse is a relative cultural term used to describe sexual relations and behavior between two or more parties which are considered criminally and/or morally offensive. Differ...
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This thread is about the guy who didnt directly abuse me, but manpulated me to preform actions...i have an indescribeable anger tonight for him, like ive never had before, im crying and shaking, and all around bad thoughts for him and the rest of his life, am i normal, or what i dont understand?
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Good news - you are as normal as the rest of us ;-)
Manipulation is emotional abuse and a tactic used by all abusers. It's normal to feel angry. If he manipulated to join, or even observe, a sexual act then it becomes a form of sexual abuse too. The exception is childhood experimentation, which can also feel invasive and abusive in hindsight and leave bad feelings too. Hang in there. 
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hey there, precious
I am sorry that your feeling this way and that this person manipulated you to do such things, I also dislike better yet ....Hate people who play with others emotions i know hate is a very strong word for a person but your post brought some feelings and past emotions from guys who had done me wrong in this way as well ....uh! unlucky me. sorry to get off track but what your feeling my dear is a normal reaction to the situation , which i once again am SORRY to hear you endured. I will pray that you get through this pain and that you can forgive yourself, because no one deserves to be taken advantage of. My dear take it one day at a time for you are hurting.. i wish you strength and courage to deal with this. I hope my words help and if you need any advice im hear and can help you. I truly know what it feels like. much hugs christa
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Hugs! This is a very normal response... I think it's more healthy to be angry at the abusers and the manipulators than it is to be mad at ourselves and blaming ourselves. Be gentle with yourself during this time. I find that doing some exercise, like walking helps me... or just getting the crayons out and going over and over the paper. A healthy outlet for anger is good... I have been going through similar. More hugs!!!
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I not only think it is normal to be so angry with this person, I also think it is HEALTHY for you to be angry at him, as long as your anger is directed at him and not taken out on other people in your life that don't deserve it or on yourself.
I would say, though, that what I have discovered about hate is that it only hurts the person who is hating, not the person hated. I hope that you can change that hate into intense dislike, for your own sake. You have been hurt enough. Don't let that hate hurt you more!
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You're not alone,I think I can vouch for everyone here when I say we've all felt like that at times. I know I do. I feel a lot of anger at all the people wh have abused me but at some oint,you have to learn to let it go. What happened to you was terrible and even though he didn't directly abuse you,he still manipulated you to do what he wanted which is still abuse. But feeling anger is a normal part of the way we all react to abuse. I still feel angry at Jonathan and Alex. But like I said,we all have to learn to move on when we're ready,otherwise it will ruin the rest of you life. My other was abused as a child and she never let it go and it made her a very bitter and twisted woman. If you ever want to talk,I'm always happy to listen. Take care x
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