Sexual Abuse Support Group

It is important to some degree. It is important for her to know so that she can help you the best way that she can. If she knows about the abuse then she can remind you are safe in the room with her, and the person(s) who hurt you are not there are cannot hurt you anymore.

My therapist waited for 7 months until she started doing EMDR with me. By then I was in a place of trusting her, which she felt was important, since EMDR is very intense and can almost make you feel worse before you feel better. Trust me it does get better, and I personally feel the results are faster with EMDR than with tradition pyshco-therapy.

If you are feeling that you do not trust her yet, I would talk with your therapist and say that you want to take time building up a trusting therapist/client relationship with her before you start with EMDR.

One thing to remember for yourself is that those of us who have been abused have huge trust issues, and we do not always know how to spot the people that we can trust. Often those who are trust worthy we choose not to trust and then we decided unwittingly to trust some one who does not deserve our trust. It takes time to build a trusting relationship with a therapist. So if you need to take time to feel this out then do that.

Hugs, Leanne

ya i have a huge problem with trust i dont even trust my parents and they have never done anything to me. She doesnt know i have trust issues, she thinks my axiety and eveything is cause by my tramatic experience that is non abuse related that happened before the abuse even started. I have had anxiety sense i was born so in part its true that a majority doesnt come from my abuse, yet it does at the same time. She also knows i have PTSD from that tramatic experience i had before abuse. So that experience is hiding the abuse which is good for me cuz i literly cant tell my story.

bump....just doing this because i have an appointment on thurs and i wanna get as many awnsers as i can so i can ask more questions to her.

It is okay if you are unable to tell your story. It take time to build trust and secondly it takes time to be able to verbalize what all happened to you.

In therapy start with what you can, do not force your self to go faster than you are ready to. It took me a year of seeing my therapist to finally be able to tell her details. I had in passing and rather flipantly told her at our first session I was sexually abused, however that is where it all stopped for me, until I was ready to share more. I have been seeing my therapist now for a little over 2 years, and I still have not told her everything. That takes time.

If your therapist tried to force EMDR on you right away, then please tell her that you are not ready for that just yet. That you want time to start to trust her. I would not do EMDR with another therapist, or a intern at the place I go to because I do not have a trusting relationship. A trusting relationship takes time.

I hope I do not sound too much like a broken record. I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers on Thursday. I see my therapist tomorrow, and I am looking forward to my sessions with her.

Hugs, Leanne

You take the steps you feel are most comfortable, not what others expect. Baby steps or big steps, ya go at your own pace, ok?

shes not forcing it on me, which is nice she just metioned it to me. I already had an idea on what it was because i take psyc classes. But i didnt no the effecs and the hole story yet so i resurched it and i no im not ready for that cuz my dreams and flashbacks are ALWAYS vivid. She just metioned it to me and said she does it with aalot of her clients. She wouldnt start it on me right away she also told me that. she is pretty good. but i no i dont trust her.

is she specialized in trauma and/or sexual assault? It's important to find a therapist who is. And it's important to find a therapist who you trust. If you can't trust your therapist, you're wasting valuable time and money, and so are they. I've switched out therapists several times before I found one that fits me. You gotta be selfish when it comes to your healing, and if you're seeing a therapist who you don't trust, they won't be able to really help you. Essentially you'd be limiting your healing to surface issues, if that. Maybe do some searches in google for centers or counselors who specialize in sexual abuse?

I don't think it is necessary to tell her to start treating you, but usually there is time spent building safety etc. and you have only seen her once....just do what makes you comfortable and if you try it and don't like it
do something else...nothing is written in stone and just because a therapist does something doesn't mean you have to do it.
You are paying...you get to choose.

wow this is an old post i made....im still with the same counselor i had only seen her once or twice when i wrote this. She is AMAZING and she is waiting for me and everything she has been very patient and lets me go at my own pace. I finally opened up to her at the end of Jan. we haven't started EMDR yet but we are working on it over the past 2ish months iv had a lot to deal with and she doesn't wanna push me because of all the other stuff going on. I dont even know the words on how to describe the words for the stress the other stuff is causing me. But ya i like her and i found her through googleing counselors in my area