Sexual Abuse Support Group

" Has anyone else ever had this happen to them? "

I wish I had a quarter for every time I've been threatened and verbally assaulted.
If she physically grabbed you, you may need to get an order of protection, and I would not wait long either.
Tom S.

I'm so sorry that you;re going through this. It is my belief that the real problem around sexual abuse is situations like the one you described. For some bizarre reason, abusers get shielded by their spouses, siblings, even by law enforcement people.

If you look at the recent scandal at Penn State University, you will see that the SOB that abused so many young boys got away with it because pretty much the entire staff around it looked the other way, concealed information, didn't say or do anything, and kept everything swept under the table.

Too many times I have seen women protecting their men over their own daughters when they have been abused. That is the real problem with sexual abuse; too many enablers and people around it blaming the victim and protecting perpetrators.

If that woman does the same thing to you, go to the police and file a restraining order against her for harassment.

Thank you all for letting me know I'm not alone. I appreciate it. I went and tried to get an order of protection, but they told me that I didn't meet the state qualifications for one. My mother and I have been thinking about a restraining order.

I'm so sorry that you have had to endure being further victimized by the abuser's family. She obviously is not coping well with what happened. Knowing someone she has loved is capable of hurting someone in that way. But that doesn't give her the right to assault you.

My 7 yr old daughter's abuser has a new girlfriend. Guess what ! She is an ex-foster daugter of mine who has two children my daughter age. When she found out that I knew she had moved him into her house and I was calling Dept. of Chidren's services, she threatened me. She said she would go to jail for assault if they took her kids. That I'd better keep my mouth shut. I went ahead and reported her anyway.

Even though people will try to intimidate you-you stay strong and keep doing what you can to heal. You were very brave and can be proud of yourself for handling yourself like a mature adult. Its a shame that woman could not do the same.

I appreciate you Anna :-)