What is Sexual Abuse
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I need some advice please guys. My younger sister and i were both sexually abused from an early age by my mum's partner. They split up a couple of years ago and my sister has finally had the courage to speak up about it and we are due in court next month and he is currently being charged with 8 counts of indecent assault and one charge of sexual abuse all against my sister. The problem i have is when the police came to take my statement i couldn't remeber much as i had blocked alot of it out in my mind and so they didn't press charges on him against me as well. The thing is i am now starting to remember more and that he did to me and i don't know wheter to go to the police and tell them, as they think the evidence they already have is more than sufficient. Also i don't know if i can put my family through it all again as we've all been to hell this past year and back worrying about my sister and things have only just started to calm down. So basically my dilemma is, is better all round for me to keep quiet if he's likely to get put away anyway or speak out and rock the boat again? My biggest concern is that i don't say anything and he gets off and if i had said something it could've made all the difference!
Let me know what you guys think! Posted on 09/21/07, 05:09 am |
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personally i would say the more evidence they have the better! you need to rid yourself of these feelings and seeing him locked up will do that! your family will support you and you have your sister and you can do this together, IF YOU THINK YOU CAN BE STRONG ENOUGH, SPEAK UP !!! my thoughts are with you ((HUGS)) 
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I agree with ESKIMO. The more evidence, the better.
Also, if you were abused, you need attention too. You need to be taken care of just like your sister.
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The more evidence they have against this guy, the less chance of him getting let off. Bury him.
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it's better to talk about it when your ready I was sexual abused by my father if you like you can add me.
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Whatever you do. Talk about it. If it's to the police or someone. Don't keep it in.
Sometimes if you rock the boat the bad guy falls out.
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i think if its going to help u completely heal, or get past what happened. say sumthing. i think it will eat at u if u dnt and its not sumthin u cld change. ur boat is alrdy rocked hun, minea s well make it worth it and get sum satisfaction. RLy i think ull be happy u did.
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You've answered your own question darl, your biggest concern is that if you don't say anything and he gets off, can you live with your self knowing that this could happen, and that if you did say anything it could have made all the difference, everyone is right the more they have the stronger the case, talk to the police and see what they say about it, as for the rocking the boat well that boat has allready sailed... don't be frightened there's more than enough loving people on here ready to support you and in turn you can support your younger sister, stand united together and the weak shall fall... you could do with extra help also as the courts give support to the victims, my thoughts are with you, and look within for the answers you'll get the right answers, keep strong your in my prayers... xxxoooxxx luv lesley...
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Claire, my advice is to speak up! You have a voice and God wants you to use it! You have been hurt, violated, etc. and it's about time, these perpetrators get the slammer!!! I think they should get life! take a life, lose your own life! You are stronger than you think and if you can't be strong by yourself, you have ALL of us here at DS holding you up!!!! You can do it sweetie! (hope that was ok.) hug, hug!
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Thanks guys! Thats all helped alot. I know i can't keep quiet, its just not fair on my sister to start with, plus i want him to pay for what he's done to our family! Thanks to all of you for your kind words i really appreciate it!
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By speaking out you will know that he is going top be punished not just for what he did to your sister but also to you so go for it rock it all you can.
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