Sexual Abuse Support Group

Holy crow those guys can get rung over the ropes for what they did! Canadian law will not allow anyone over 17 to touch a 14 year old, even if they are both sober and willing (a parent can press charges on the teenager's behalf).

He removed your clothing against your will; there is no question that this is abuse. A police officer and crown attorney could help you determine exactly what charges, maybe only corrupting morals unfortunately.

Have you shared this with an adult who is close to you yet? That would be the right thing to do & I hope that react in a calm manner, sensitive to your character.

Even a forced kiss is, in my opinion, abusive ... at least disrespectful. If their 22 year old friends found out they would liekly need to find an entire new set of friends, that alone would bring some sense of justice.

Yes this is abuse :( And it's really sad. It's shocking that they took you back to their place and did that. They were definitely taking advantage of you especially in a drunk state like you were. Don't feel guilty hun - they're the ones at fault, and only them. They had no right to hurt you like that no matter what you think. Is there any adult you could trust to talk ths over with?

yes that is sexual abuse. What happened to you is terrible but I am glad it wasnt worse.
Even though you willingly went with these guys and got drunk that didnt give them the right to pressure you to strip and to kiss you.
They shouldnt have been taking children home with them and giving them alcohol.
They are much older than you, you are a child and so they should not have taken advantage of you.
It can be a dangerous world out there and even though no one has the right to do these things to you, you must be careful. I hope after this experience you will not go out at night and not trust strangers.
If this is something you are having a hard time getting over I would recommend therapy and you could even press charges against these men.

I had to tell someone, it was eating me alive. So i chose to tell my parents. I knew that they were going to be extremely disappointed in me, but i had to face the consequences. But they didnt react so well. They planned to send me to Boot Camp or kick me out of the house. But they never did. I just stayed home, in my room for about a month without talking to anyone outside of my house. I went absolutely physco though.
I've definately learned my lesson big time. Now i dont even give strangers eye contact in public.
I didnt know if it was sexual abuse or not because people consider worse things to be abuse. like rape. people have it so much worse than i do, and i understand that.
but ever since it happened, i havent been getting much sleep. and always think about it. it never leaves my head, ever. and i wish it could. because when i do think about it, i usually start crying. it was my fault in the first place.
my mom asked me in the summer about couselling but i never really did answer her. i guess im too scared to face the truth.

I was molested by my brother. He only used his hands and it only happened once. Even though a lot of the people on here have had it much worse than me, I was still abused. And I haven't come across anyone who would begrudge me for not having been abused as bad as they were. You're in the right place, sweetie. What happened to you wasn't your fault.

I agree with beachbum. Yep, a lot of people have been through worse than what I have. But that doesn't mean what you or I have experienced isn't abuse. Because what you went through WAS abuse. It isn't your fault. Just because you were young and in a vulnerable position, and put your trust in these people, DOESNT MEAN they had the right to abuse you and put you in that situation. They didn't. No-one does. No matter what you think, no matter what yo did - it was not your fault. I hope you can come to understand that.

Yes, rape is sexual abuse, and it's horrible - but so is what happened to you. Don't beat yourself up about it hun. Have your parents offered you any more support? I think counseling would be a good idea. The sooner you talk about and get your head around what you've been through, the closer you will get to finding a way through it all. Always here to talk if you need me.

Yes he removed your cloths without your permissions. right there is assault. please when you are with people you don't know what your alcohol level try to keep a clear mind so you can try and avoid getting hurt or abused.