Sexual Abuse Support Group

When you feel there is a connection between you to and that you have shared some other secrets in success. It is hard to say when the time is right but when it is you will know. If you doubt how he may react than it may not be the right time. Be patient. You also could give him just the basics. Don't devulge to much if you think he may not be able to handle it.

hello jenavive05,
i know how you feel! i have been with my boyfriend for 6 years now. telling him about my past sexual abuse was the hardest thing that i have everdone. i was scared that he might walk away or think i'm disgusting. the way i told my boyfriend was by writing it on paper.it helped eased the nervousness. i was able to tell about everything with out crying or freezing up during the conversation. i told my boyfriend when we were about three months into the dating. the best time to tell your boyfriend when feel comfortable and when your ready. i hope this help in some way. i wish you the best of luck and stay strong.thank you for your story because i know now that i'm not the only one who feels like this. thank you again.

I told my boyfriend kind of straight away, he said he didnt know how to act around me at first but we're still together 2 years after i told him. He understands that it effects the way i act at times. Wait till you think its the right time but i dont think you should keep it from him if its going to be a serious relationship, he might be able to help you through it.

When you feel that you have built up enough of a trust to tell him.When you know that he is who you want to be with and that it could affect the relationship.Let him know when you are ready that you have to talk about something serious.Then tell him what you can and let him know you need his support and if he really loves you he will be there for you.Wishing you the best of luck.

That's a tough one. I always wait until we've been dating a while. It really depends on the guy. I test the waters a bit first before I say much.

I met my current boyfriend last summer. I waited until we had been dating a few months. He knew the real me by then and so he could handle it.

Trust your gut on this one. It so much depends on the man and the situation. I don't think it's a good idea to say anything to soon.

I am still struggling with this after over a year in a very stable and happy relationship!

Do not worry about it. it will come out if and when it needs to, and if they are right for you they will be supportive of it.

Try not to pick a bad time or to shock them if it is completely unexpected or they may simply not know how to react . But if it becomes an issue dont suffer in silence. At times i wish i could take his advice myslef. im too stuborn and want it not to exist in my nice shiny happy relationship, but part of me is living a lie as it is still there im just hiding it