Sex / Pornography Addiction Support Group

This was brought up in another topic, but it's really intriguing to me.

A couple SA's (or SO's spouses) have thought that if they were more attractive, they would fear acting out more than they originally have. Is this a common thought?

I just find this a really interesting thought process. I suppose in the SO world, when the SO finds out about their husband's addiction, the women who know they're beautiful generally wonder"why?" whereas the women who question their beauty think, "I know why."

So that brings to question SA's and their self-esteem. Does low self-esteem limit progressiveness of sexual addiction? I got to thinking about it some. I consider my husband to be really attractive. He knows he is good-looking, however, he doubts himself in a lot of other areas (I believe it has to do with his mom's relationship with him, and lack of a good male role model). Regardless, I absolutely know he would never sleep with anyone, unless perhaps it was a women who wouldn't take no for an answer, or something. He's just not confident enough to pursue an affair. That sounds terrible, but I'm sure you guys understand what I'm saying.

It also makes me think of one particular visitor on this board who thinks very highly of himself and has, in the past, bragged about his sexual accomplishments. I don't consider him attractive, and yet his self confidence seems to have taken him places within his addiction. =) I know confidence plays a large role in daily achievements, so then it must also play a role in the SA "achievements" as well, yes?

So, what are your thoughts?
Posted on 11/08/09, 11:11 pm