Sex / Pornography Addiction Support Group

Please read the book Living With Your Husbands Secret Wars. By Means

There is also a workbook called a partners healing journey. I am reading both these and they help alot. Although I think I may never get healing, this is a start. There is also a book for him my husband read called Every Mans Battle, but if he doesn't think its a problem, it won't do much good. I am lucky that my husband knows its a problem and as far as I know hasn't gotten back into it. However, I do have a filter. Bsafe from Focus on the Family. It is awesome. If you share a computer you may consider installing it. It blocks EVERYTHING! and you can keep the passwords and set it at whatever settings you like.

Thank you for your help.He has his own computer and he keeps his pictures and other porn on a little micro chip with passwords I don't know.He's trying to hide it but I'm not stupid.I know what he's doing.

Don't you ever believe that its your fault! I have a hard time with this! I beat myself up regularly thinking that i have something wrong with me or somehow I'm not good enough! Its so much easier from the outside looking in, to tell someone how crazy they are to think it has anything to do with them! I give you props for saying that you won't accept that! That is such a wonderful step. I will be praying for you and your family! My husband is also a addict! Its probably close to if not the hardest thing that I've ever had to deal with! I carry it around everyday! Its like its eating me alive!

This is the hardest thing I've ever had to deal with and I don't wish this on anyone.He recently promised me things would change but they haven't because he was online just a day or 2 ago and he was looking at that stuff again.i've had people here say i have been lloking for a reason to leave my husband anyway but i can honestly say that that is not the case.I am leaving because I can't handle his addiction plain and simple.

I don't think that you r just looking for a reason to leave him! Alot of the time I think that I would too if we didn't have small children! I am so sad too much of the time. The thing is even when they say they will change and stop for a while or for good, you still have issues that take so much time to heal. Like learning to trust again. It is honestly so very hard. They have it in their head that they stopped and now everything is fixed. Not the case. My husband stopped and then everything went right back down hill cause I couldn't fully trust him right the next day! I don't think that leaving your husband is the right thing though! I think that you maybe need to have some serious talks then seek counsel. Do you go to church?

I do go to church and I am also in couselling for other issues and I bought my husband's addiction up in the last session so maybe that will help me deal with it.It's just so hard.

I've never understood why honesty about the subject is so difficult for other men? This includes the need to hide the porn material. I have dvds' and i use the net. My wife knows this and i tell her honestly and she knows where i keep my stuff. She also knows that i have been addicted to sex and porn long before we ever met. She even asked me once if i liked looking at those models having sex because they are much prettier and in better shape than she is and i told her yes and that as much as i love her and am in love with her, that she needs to get back into shape to be more attractive to me. I simply feel that lying to her and denying these things would be insulting her intelligence. So, she starting to get back into the gym and eating right. Will this stop me from self satisfying or looking at porn ? No, cause i still enjoy doing it. But at least i admit it.

I could deal with the porn and stuff if he was honest about it.I weigh 100 pounds.There is not an ounce of fat on me and I keep myself in good shape.The other issue is that he looks at that stuff even when our girls are up and I would rather he not do that.

One of the most difficult things for me was to admit that I had a problem and was a sex addict. There was nothing my wife could do or say to me to make me stop. I have hit bottom a few times and thought at the time that "This is it". I only then started looking for a shovel to make the bottom deeper. Only when the dirt I am throwing out of the hole starts falling back on me, did I realize that this addiction is out of control and unmanageable. I had to find this out for myself. I am in the process of filing for divorce and continue to attend SA meetings and working the Steps (step 4 at the moment).

I just have to smile when I hear over and over again that the husband or wife, says they do nothave a problem.

I say go to www.sa.org and have them take the test , 20 questions to find out.

I'm still hiding out. That is why I came into this room, because I want to open up and say it like it is... I hope I don't offend anyone because sometimes I need to say it like it is. I am tired of needing sex five to ten times a day and trying to call that normal... I have scoured the web all over and can't find any support groups in this area for this addiction... any advice?