Sex / Pornography Addiction Support Group

Search for discussions that seem to fit your situation, find other men who will accept, affirm and keep you accountable, pot covenant eyes on your computer and sign up several accountability partners, get prepared through therapy and wise council to disclose your catagoric behaviors to your wife voluntarily. Nor the details at first, just the 60,000 foot view, then be prepared to answer every question she asks with rigorous honesty, regardless of your fear of her reaction. Find an sa meeting and go 6 times before you give up.

Pray hard!

There are also some really great books that can help you both understand what it is you are fighting against, and give you the education and the tools on how to try and win this battle.

Out Of The Shadows....By Patrick Carnes Ph.cd
Menind A Shattered Heart - A guide for spouses of sex addicts...By Stefanie Carnes Ph.d

Best of Luck, and congrats for admitting you have a problem, and seeking help. Yes it does rip apart familes, so continued strength to you both.

Well that'll teach me for not proof reading, that book is

"Mending a Shattered Heart"

Hi unclevi,

You've made the hardest step - realizing you have a problem. Unfortunately in our society this step is not easy, because since we were born we were fed lies that "pornography is healthy" and saw everybody else do it assuming that there could be no danger involved. But there is.

I know how you feel. I realized that I was a porn addict about 3 years ago. I am still working on my recovery. You can read about my personal experience here ( http://www.feedtherightwolf.org/20... ) but thats the short answer your question.

And the long answer... Therapy, 12 step group for saa ( even if you don't do the step, most of people there don't, they just go there for support. it is really easy going, just commit going for at least 3 meetings and you will get over feeling like this place is weird, and will understand the value of that support). Read up as much as you can on the issue. Learn from members on this board, there are some with long term sobriety. There is bunch of stuff you can do in no particular order. But finding a support group and therapist are good first steps, so you are on the right track.

Once again congratulations on realizing that you do have a problem, it takes a lot of open minded thinking and self examination, and I respect you a lot for it.

Thank you everyone, all of the advice is valid. Made appointment for therapist and I have been able to resist temptation thus far. Will keep you guys posted