What is Sex Pornography Addiction
Sexual addiction, also sometimes called sexual compulsion, is a postulated form of psychological addiction to sexual intercourse and other sexual behavior.
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Ok.. I've been married for almost 23 yrs and I do love my husband very much... but (the infamous word) I have cheated on him numerous times. I've been told that I should go to SAA and I did.. and to be honest.. I was the only female there and all I did at the meeting was conceive thoughts in my head like.. "hhmmmm all these guys want it as bad as I do, hhmmm he's cute, etc."
I really don't think that I'm a sex addict because its not about the intercourse persay... its more (for me) about pleasing a man... having a man want me then pleasing him. I'm even satisfied if I'M not "satisfied"I don't have sex with just anyone but I have had alot of one night stands with guys I don't know. I meet them from the internet, phone date lines, bars, etc. I do fantisize alot too, phone sex, masturbate, etc. Sometimes just seeing an attractive man walking down the road I think to myself.. "I'd like to sleep with him" or "I'd soooo f__k him" So my question is.. am I a sex addict or is it another underlining problem? Posted on 09/16/09, 02:09 am |
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Nice. I am completely your counterpart in Male form. I don't think you are a sex addict but have the desire to please as I do. I want to thoroughly please the other person to the point that I am happy to cum in second. I've had a few extra-marital affairs myself. They have been quite satisfying when they happened. I love my spouse very much and she's great in bed but not often enough. There needs to be more emotion and sharing with your partner. They have to be willing to give you what you want in sex and love and emotion or we go elsewhere to get it. 
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Well... Sex addicts get to define their own definition of what sex addiction is... A good book to read on the subject is Out of the Shadows (http://www.amazon.com/gp/redirect.html?ie=UTF8&location=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.amazon.com%2Freview%2F1568386214%3Fie%3DUTF8%26ref%255F%3Dcm%255Fcr%255Fpr%255Fhist%255F5%26showViewpoints%3D0%26filterBy%3DaddFiveStar&tag=weilos095-20&linkCode=ur2&camp=1789&creative=390957) after you guys are done reading it you will know for yourself...
The best test I've heard though is only one line long "If you drink when you didn't intend to, and more than you intended to, you, my friend, have just failed this test." Just replace the "drink" with your substance or behavior of choice. As far as it being emotional addiction or something else... All addictions are the same, your substance or behavior of choice doesn't really matter. At the end it is all the same... As far as going to mans groups from a women perspective... There are some women who find the support they need there, but I do think you will be much more successful in women only group, at least in the beginning. Sex and Love Addicts ( http://www.slaafws.org/ )has the largest female population, and you can alway attend a women only tele-meeting. Don't let the first negative experience discourage you. Feed.
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NaNaPaPa...You definitely have a sex addiction.
I am a female and I do not think that way..no matter how hot the guy walking down the street is. I am on here for support for my brother.
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Do you go about pleasing your H that way? Is he pleased with your extramarital affairs?
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NaNaNPaPa,
Your are a Sex and Love Addict, probably a fantasy addict as well. SLAA tends to attract more women than SAA so you may feel more comfortable there. I would encourage you to read about Sex and Love Addiction on the website. Also, there is a thread on Love Addiction/Love Avoidance on this board. http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Sex... Best of luck, soberone
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NaNaPaPa, What you said sounds like sex addiction...You are abusing sex for whatever reasons and it is distorted. I am a sex addict (Male) and I do think in the same lines......Moreover I am a lot in to porn, masturbation etc. too.
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