Separation Anxiety Support Group

From what you've written it seems like you probably don't have seperation anxiety, but you may just have a diffrent type of seperation anxiety than I do. When im experienceing seperation anxiety its because ive been away from "my person" for too long. When i've been away to long i may cry or i sometimes have a panic attack. *My person is the only person that i can really trust and talk to and that i really can't be without.
I hope that i may have helped you a little. If not, I wish you lots of luck! *Hugs*
Ashley

thanks for your reply ashley....hmmmm
well i think my anxiety is definately different from yours by the sounds of things. not helped by my mood disorder either lol.
hugs mandie :)

Hi Amanda,

I experience the exact same feelings as you. I actually suffered from seapration anxiety with my mother groing up. She could barely go to the washroom without me crying and freaking out up until I was about 7 or so. Over the past 6 months, I've been experiencing more stress than usual, therefore, I'm depressed. Not enough seritonin to deal with my work-load and unfortunately, I can't lessenmy workload for the next 1.5 years. My separation anxiety seems to have re-surfaced. I was reading about it and for adults that experience it, they often experience it alongside another disorder. So I guess that it kind of makes sense that it would resurface at this moment in my life. My boyfriend went away this weekend to a wedding which I couldn't attend for numerous reasons - busy with work/school, don't know the people getting married, didn't want to take paid holiday days - and I've been feeling INCREDIBLY anxious ever since he left. I actually started to have mini episodes a few days before he left in anticipation for him leaving. The problem too is that he is WAY up north, therefore, basically ZERO cell phone reception so I can't even just call him and talk to him. I have NOTHING to worry about as far as trust/cheating goes - we're totally solid/been together for 4 years/stupidly happy together - but I will have images flash in my head sometimes. It's driving me CRAZY. I have such an amazing boyfriend who loves me dearly and he should be able to go away for a few days and do something on his own. Every ounce of my being wants to stop worrying. There's no reason for it, but the negative thoughts are there. I even worry about him getting into an accident on the way home or about anything that will separate me from him. I've been having recurring nightmares since he left too...events happen in my dream that separate me from him. I'm just hating this! I feel somewhat empowered now that I know it probably is separation axiety recurring in my adult life towards my most important attachment. I talked to my mom about it last night and she feels bad that she didn't address my feelings appropriately when I was younger.

I want the negative thoughts to go away and I want to feel relaxed while my boyfriend is away. I also want to value my boyfriend's and mine individual time...I know that this is important to have in a relationship as well.

I was happy when I read your post Amanda. Just to know that there's someone else out there who is experiencing the same feelings helps. Sounds like you have a great guy and have no reason to worry either. It's really too bad that we put ourselves through distress.

Any advice? How did the rest of his weekend away? How did you deal with it? What was it like when he got home? Do you feel better knowing that nothing catastropic happened? I'm thinking that the more times that he's away from me when nothing happens, I will get stronger.

~Lara

I have the same issue as you Luna. Do to my job, I can not seek help for the anxiety. I rely on st johns wort, valerian, and breathing, also by trying to say positive thingsover and over until the negative thoughts fade to where I can function.Unfortuanatly it affectsmy eating, sleeping, and I can not focus on anything. I can not do my school work,but aslame as this sounds, I organize or clean something. Sounds quite strange in a compulsive way but, I resortto that because it doesn not take real thoguts but always me to actively do something and stay busy. When your busy, it isharder tofocus ont he negative thoughts that are invading my head. lol.

i found this group while i was bored one day, i dont know if it would help you but i belong to the jealousy group, feel free to take a look, you might find it helpful.