Senior Health & Aging Support Group

Hello. If you would like to have a friend to recieve and send email messages, I am always available for a chat. I am blessed with good health and have been trying to help others in any way I can. Just let me know by message from the profile page and I will gladly exchange email addresses.

I guess I am odd, I am in my late fifties, and for the first time I am on my own having recently gotten out of a 31 year abusive marriage. I am totaly loving being on my own., I have friends and my adult kids. I am relaxing in the idea that i can finally, well, relax and enjoy life....when mood swings let me lol. I wish you the best and alot of happiness :)

Sadie,

I do not think you odd it all! Getting out of an abusive relationship is extremely liberating. Of course you are quite naturally enjoying you new found freedom!

I have been alone for more than 15 years. No adult kids around and in chronic pain. Quite a different scenario.

I still enjoy my freedom and independence 90% of the time...but there are moments when I would like companionship...

I left a marriage after 26 years. As I look back, I regret not staying a few more years until the kids were out of high school. (long story...moves....school changes). My daughter lived with me, had a baby, stayed for 5 years, then moved out married and is going fine on her own. 3 boys all grown and doing fine. I am so lonely that I cry a lot. I've tried "dating", "relationships", etc. Don't have the energy for it anymore. After having my granddaughter spend her first 5 years here, I miss her like crazy although she's been gone now for a year and a half and they're only 15 miles away and I see her every week. It's too quiet. I have no friendships and laughter. I have a nice basement and thought about trying to get a roommate, but that's too risky. In the last year, I've been sick and hospitalized for a week, lost my job, took a new (boring) job, have 2/3 the income I used to have and never feel well physically anymore. My only female friend died of melanoma a few years ago. We used to laugh together a lot. I miss laughing. I'm tired of going to work, coming home, being alone, sleeping, getting up, going to work, coming home, being alone...........

I was glad to know that some of the people in the group have been married for as long as I was. I was married for 34 years, and never expected to be divorced! I can't believe I stayed in the relationship now that I am able to see things that were going on. While I was there, I just couldn't see it. I defended him to others. Everyone knew what a bad relationship it was except me! Even my children knew the situation wasn't good. Does anyone else have a problem thinking they could ever trust again?

I won't trust again, not because of my "ex", but because of the people I've met since then. I don't really want to be alone, but "dating" has been horrible. I now have one HUGE qualification up front: you must be able to support yourself. I've met so many guys who put up a good front, but are basically looking for someone to carry them, satisfy their "needs" and cater to their whims. I hate being lonely, but it beats being used.

Cp - I soooo agree...yet something draws me back and back again. Out of boredom I search the online website "match' type sites. (Plenty of Fish is FREE!)

But what LOOSERS!!

I'd rather be alone, and yet...

and it is NOT sex I am looking for. Have zero interest in that. oh well, ya can't live them and...