What is Self-Injury
Self-harm is also known as self-injury (SI), self-inflicted violence (SIV), self-injurious behavior (SIB), and self-mutilation, although this last term has connotations that some p...
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Today has been a very hard day I made a very hard disision last week that because of the depresion and the cutting has been so hard for me to try to get trough that I could not keep all mine and the kids pets we have 3 small dogs 4 outdoor/indoor cats which I am going to try to keep but had to find homes for all my small birds a male singing canary named twetty which I have had for over a year a lovebird my brother gave my 7 year old a few months ago for her birthday and a 14 zeabra finches we have had for six months and the kids pair of parakeets thay all found new homes I used craigslist to place them and some with a friend now the house is not the same with out them it is killing me insde already not only do I miss them all so much but also watching the girls grive and cry over thier pets but the hardest is still to come I still have to place Ashley my 7 year olds 2 ferrets she has had for over 2 years and Jessica my 4 year olds 2 mini bunnys she has had for over 2 years as well what can I do? What should I say to them? But they are not old enofe to care for them. And right now I just started therapy and med because of the si and depreion is so bad and I have to get my self back together so I can take care of them and the house and thir dad is always at work I can bairly get. Buy and I know it is going to take time and thing are going to get better but keeping the animals and not being able to care for them is not fair to the animals or the kids because the girls need me to get better and I have to be able to be ther for my girls but if I stress myself out with all the pet which they are part of the family too I can not be there for my girls so I know I am doing the right thing but why is it so hard? 1 it fells like part of the family is gone and 2 I can not stand seing the kids so upset this is upseting me to the point I feel I have made a mistake and fell like I need to cut again that know matter which way I go it is the rong way. Someone please help I need advice badly??????
Posted on 11/02/09, 10:11 pm |
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Hi Smka16,
I'm pretty new and kind of wreck myself, but your story brought to mind the old airplane emergency trick where you "always put on your air mask before assisting others". At some point you have to admit you just don't have the ability to deal with all these pets or the process of giving them away. The kids are going to be far happy in the future with a mom who can cope in a healthy way than they are going to be affected negatively from you getting rid of all this extra work. If it were me, I would take all the pets and put them in your husbands vehicle and say "I can't do it, I need help, take care of getting rid of these pets to safe place, because I have to focus on me right now or I won't be able to be a mom in the future!" Just my, admittedly inexperienced, opinion of course. 
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Would it be an idea to get your husband to have a quiet word with the kids? He may be able to help them see things from a more neutral point of view. I wouldn't be able to put up with all the noise from the birds if I were in your place personally so I think you've done the right thing.
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I have now placed all the caged animals except my 7 year olds ferrets and after a lot of thougt I think we are going to keep them but I did put them in a smaler cage that still gives them plenty of room but is much more manageable so things seem to much better now thanks for the advice I got my brother to help me place the bunnys he runs a trift store so he is going to adopt them out in his store for me and the baby for now thinks her uncle Richard has her bunnys and later on down the road we will tell her they did not work out at his house but he found them a realy good home thanks
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