What is Secondary Infertility
"Secondary infertility" is difficulty conceiving after already having conceived and carried a normal pregnancy. Apart from various medical conditions (e.g. hormonal), this may come...
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Hello All,
I'm new to this site. Unfortunately, however, I am not new to secondary infertility! Our story in a (GINORMOUS) nutshell....... My husband and I have been TTCing for nearly 5 years. Not even a hint of a positive the entire time! I was married before and had two sons, both of whom I am eternally grateful for, and he has a son with his former spouse. (Talk about outnumbered!!) After my second boy was born in 1995 I had a tubal ligation (TL). In 2000 I lost my left tube due to an ectopic pregnancy (EP), imagine my shock!! I had also just received a Depo shot!! Talk about a determined 'sprout'!! Must have been a boy, he obviously refused to ask for directions and got lost!! Well, not supposed to be. It still hit me really hard though. I was eventually engaged to the father of that baby, but we never married. Too many issues. Then in 2004 I met the man of my dreams, the love of my life and my soul mate all in one! (My divorce was final in 1999.) I agreed to have a tubal reversal (TR) and give him another child before we were even engaged! He is such an awesome Dad! Well, February 21, 2005, I underwent TR surgery in Chapel Hill, NC. We have been TTCing since March 2005 to no avail......obviously. Since the TR we have had an HSG (hysterosalpingogram - to see if the tubes are blocked) or in my case, to see if the tube is blocked. In '07 we tried Chlomid with no success......obviously. We went back to TTCing on our own, with the same results. I have been extremely discouraged over the past year. A person very close to me was pregnant, but did not tell me until she was 5 months along. She never had pre-natal exams in those first five months. And yet she has another baby. This was her fifth!! No daddies involoved with four of them!! How is that fair? To top it off, my Husband's ex just had another baby! I know at least 4 teenage girls who have had babies in the past few years. My teenage son's ex-girlfriend is about to burst now!!! NOT HIS, thank you Jesus for that miracle!! I have allowed myself to become so overwhelmed by all of these babies that I gave up on more than just a baby. I thought my Husband had given up, too. However, amazingly, he still wants me.......and our baby. We went on a weekend Marriage Retreat through the PenFl Assemblies of God. We went to Daytona, without kids, and decided that we still wanted to be parents again, this time with each other. Whatever it takes!! I have a yearly exam tomorrow and plan to ask my Doc about renewing our efforts to get pregnant, with the help of some fertility drugs of course! Hopefully this time we will have better luck at TTCing. Thanks for letting me put it out there, even if it's a little long! Posted on 10/29/09, 02:10 pm |
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Well, it's been so long I honestly can't remember when we did the Chlomid........however, I do know that it was either 07 or 08.....lol. 
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I understand what you're going through. It sounds like fertility treatment is your next step and I'm glad you're going to see your Dr. 5 years is a long time. I have been trying for the same amount of time and it is exhausting and stressful. As long as you and your husband are on the same page, everything should be ok. Good Luck and keep us updated! Hugs!
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Thanks.... However, we cannot afford IVF, and that's what the RE recommended without even speaking to us. We waited in his office for about 25 minutes, he walked in with my chart and announced that IVF was his only suggestion.
My Dr. wants me to revisit with that RE. I just don't know what to do right now. I'm just gonna cry for a while. Oh yeah, I CAN"T.....I have to go meet my ex-wife -in-law (that's what my Hubby calls his ex in relation to me).....lol.........who just had a baby last week..........how fun this will be!!!! I have to pick up my step-son. Have to put on my happy face.....again. Sorry........ranting..... :' I ...... My Husband wants to set an appointment ASAP with the RE, but I'm not sure that I can hear his suggestion again knowing full well that we do not have that kind of money. I don't know what to do right now. I'm grateful for others who know what it is like, I'm sad that there are others in this situation, but grateful for the company. I don't have anyone, but my Husband, to talk to about any of this, and I can't talk to him about everything.......there are just things that they don't go through in the same ways as we do. Thanks for the hug, I could use one right about now... Good luck with your journey too!! Thank you for responding.....I know that was a long, ranting, raving opener......thanks for 'listening'....... ; )
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Rant, cry do whatever you have to but don't forget to regroup and refocus.
True story...Yesterday my youngest daughter(11) had a recital and she needed a pair of black pants. So off I go to the store to buy these black pants (follow me I am going somewhere with this). My oldest (14) once we entered the store started going on about jackets, shirts, and jeans she wanted. The trip was for her sister! Now I listened to her beg and justify why I should buy her all of these clothes today. I had actually planned a shopping trip (in my mind days before for her in a few weeks) but she does now know this. On this shopping trip I plan on buying her some fall/winter needs and a few wants. But on that day it was time for my youngest to receive the much needed pants for the recital. If I waited and bought her the pants over the weekend it would have been too late. So I acted and gave her what she needed at the right time and the recital was awesome and the pants were a perfect fit. Now, that's how I look at our situation now. God is going to bless us at the right moment. Even though we don't understand this is their moment. He hears our prayers and definitely our cries. He knows for what our heart longs for and it is going to happen in the right time. I'v been there where you are and I have felt the same way. Don't beat yourself up what you are feeling is natural. But keeping looking at the end result. It's coming but positive is the only way to be mentally, spiritually, and on an ept. :) Keep us updated!
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Hi there. First I a want to say welcome. These ladies are incredibly supportive and compassionate. Second, just wondering if your insurance covers any of the expense for an RE. It can be a lot of poking and prodding, and drugs. But it sounds like that may be your best option. If nothing else, you will get some answers as to what could be blocking your chance at conception. I just started seeing one who happens to be an OB/GYN, and it was like someone finally turned on a light. I have a clear picture and a plan thanks to her. I hope this helps. Feel free to vent, rant, cry, and anything else that helps anytime.
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Wow, what a journey you have been on. Welcome to the group, I hope you find strenghten and support from the women on this site, they are amazing.
I had a ectopic pregnancy and a tube removed as a result so I can understand your pain there. I wish you lots of success on your journey xx
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Welcome. I'm sorry to hear of your heart-breaking journey. I have a four and a half year old daughter & prayed for another shot at motherhood for three years - we are 3/4 of the way through the adoption process now here in New Zealand and are taking our sweet time has we have some other things we now want to achieve as a family first before adding to our family. I understand your pain & wish you all the best.
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Welcome...you are an incredible women and need to know this. Having support thru this is so important and it sounds like you have it . Not just here but home as well! I wish you all the best in this journey and that God will grant you the desires of you Heart in His time( that is always the perfect time... His time:0)
stay blessed as you continue to bless others just by being you:)
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Thank you ladies for all your thoughts, prayers and support!! As I said before I don't really have anyone to talk to about this stuff.
My Hubby is incredibly compassionate and sympathetic. Unfortunately, he has all the wrong 'equipment' to fully understand how all of this impacts me. My Mom thinks that we should just be happy with the kids we each have seperately and not try to have any together. My Dad is suppprtive to a degree......while he would love another grandbaby to play with, he is not at all interested in discussing his baby girl's fertility, lack thereof, or the TTC'ing process (thankfully!)! My Husband's parents don't really like me all that much. I am not his first wife and therefore I will never be 'good enough' (even though I am the reason he stopped drinking, dipping and smoking, and is now not only back in church but is again involved with the Royal Ranger program and the FCF program in our church). Wow, how about that, I bettered their son and I'm still no good. Okay, that's a whole 'nother story line......ugh, in-laws. Anyhoo, unfortunately our insurance, UnitedHealthCare, will NOT cover any part......of any process......of any ART procedure (IVF, IUI, nothing). Even though they are being paid nearly $800.00 per month just for our family!!! Thankfully my Hubby's employer pays the first $500.00 or we wouldn't even have the limited coverage that we have now. Also I will have to postpone all TTC'ing, well just the C'ing part ; ) , while on doxycycline! Which will give me a chance to get back into the routine of temping and testing!! YAY!! (NOT) WOW it feels really good to get some of all this 'junk' just OUT! OMG, someone's stealing from my neighbor's yard!!!!! Gotta call the Police! More later!
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Wow!!! I never came back to report on what happened!! I called the law to some young people in my neighbors yard (late teens, early 20's). They jumped the fence leaving their truck when the office pulled up!! Long story short.........both were caught, they had vandalized not just that place, but the one beside it as well!! Both places are empty right now. One guy didn't have any criminal history.....his friend, however, had 3 warrants for his arrest on him!! YAY!! Score one for the good guys!!
So, as for us.......I have decided not to take the doxycycline. I don't need anymore help with throwing my female system out of whack, and it has alot of the same 'stomach irritation' side-effects as the metformin that my GYN put me back on. So, I have decided that I would prefer to have a somewhat functioning system, and go back to BD'ing and possibly have a miracle to show for it, than to have clear skin. I have gone back to temping and OPK's. Right now we are on our three day 'ban' to build up the lil' swimmers for BD'ing on CD's 12,13,14 and so on ; ) . Unfortunately, right now the OPK's are not showing any LH at all........UGH, what now!! Well, anyway, we are doing ok right now. A good bit happier, and more intimate than we have been in a really long time. Maybe we were trying too hard. I hope that was the problem!! Hugs and Prayers to everyone TTC'ing, and/or trying to add through adoption!!
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