Rheumatoid Arthritis Support Group

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Do any of you remember Ally MCBEAL? Remember when she would day dream about doing bad things happening to people.

Well I almost did more than imagine.

My BP was pumping and I was poised for the inevitable when......my supervisor heard the tone in my voice and called me in her office.....DAMN! she knew I was locked and loaded.

I have a Hypochondriac friend/co-worker who I am considering distancing myself from after today.

This Hypochondriac co-wrker of mine will not stop whining about her swollen finger. She is convinced she has an autoimmund disease...when her doctors even told her the swelling was not consistent with RA or Lupus more like and injury.

I have RA and I know she doesn't! She kept at me and at me today about her hands.

I finally told her well maybe you should stop playing basketball 3 times a week if you are having these problems, your just agitating them.

She replied well I will never stop!!!. Well when I pointed out to her that her fingers while yes swollen, they are NOT RED, AND NOT HOT TO THE TOUCH AND ITS HER WHOLE FINGER! NOT JUST THE JOINT>>>>>AHHHHHH! She said well, my knees and ankles have been hurting so bad I can hardly drive.

REALLY, THEN WHY/HOW CAN SHE STILL PLAY BASKETBALL (VIGOROUSLY BTW IVE SEEN HER IN ACTION) WITH SO CALLED ACHY KNEES AND ANKLES TO THE POINT SHE CAN HARDLY DRIVE.

I CANT TAKE IT ANYMORE, EVERYONE IN THE OFFICE THINKS SHE IS A HYPO, CUZ IT IS ONE THING OR ANOTHER EVERY SINGLE DAY.

I hurt all the time but try to keep it to myself or just say, just the same old RA bullpucky.

SO there I was starting to derail/ pummel her. I stood up and started pointing my finger and getting more pissed and just when I was about to really get in her face my supervisor called me in and I started crying.

ALL of my DS friends, you all know whats been going on with me between the RA and mY Brain shit.

My supervisore said "Thats IT!" SO she pulled the said co-worker aside.

My supervisor told the hypocondriac that,"Dawn has enough on her plate right now and that she does not want her to talk to me anymore about her theorized RA. B/C all it does is worry me and remind me of my own problems"

She also told her "she wants me to be able to come to work and not have to deal with that, that I should be able to come to work and just focus on work."

This is the way my supervisor put it, but we all know that quite frankly it just hurts and I have no more compassion and patience left in me for her constant hycondriac complaints.

I feel we all who truly have RA bear the badge, the purple heart, if you will. For someone to try to say they have it, when I know they are faking, is INSULTING.

Cause if she had what I had, she would know the unbearable pain you get and the dark places it takes you, she would know that you have to change your lifestlye or you'll suffer. She would know how much I HURT and could relate. Most of all she would actively seek treatment and relief and she doesnt!

there is too many wholes in her story, and too many contradictory actions on her part.

I probably would have been able to muddle thru her babbble, if it wasn't for such stressful recent events (my brain), but when she found out about my brain, she just looked at me and

"You shouldn't worry about it, its fixable they will just have to put a shunt in your brain.

At that very moment, my heart sank, I was saddened, after all I comofrted her thru to that point. And for her to say that to me.

Its not just a shunt, its my brain, its surgery on my brain, so far my MD thinks its normal pressure hydrocelphalus.

Its not just a shunt, its my life and I am scared to death for my kids, for my husband and for me.

But SHE doesn't care cuz here finger is swollen.

So I think I have got to stop being her friend and just BE a very distant coworker, I think she is toxic. I was so worked up, I almost vomited in my supervisors office, and right now I can't let people do that to me.

I am blessed to have my supervisor, she cares deeply for me and so do the other gals in the office. They are all tired of this hypo, and hopefully she will back off.

Sorry for the rant, I just needed to let it out.

By this time next week I suspect, this hYpocondriach will start having brain problems too....we'll see
Posted on 11/04/09, 11:11 pm