Rheumatoid Arthritis Support Group

Dear Doug , Cat , Erica , brat , PeaceHopeLove , purplekitty , Caspiana , spiecy0212 , Tessie2 , Norrie08
Thank you for all the wishes
Thank you for all the prayers
Thank you for being here for me
Thank u a lot for responding
I want to thank you Doug for working on such a helpful and hope giving website, and I want you to know that I believe that here will be always good sides in us that will us confront our demons.
During my dark times (which can last for weeks and months) I see every now and then a light somewhere, and I know that there is light, but sometimes life events can be overwhelming in a way that I feel that the best thing to do is to give up and see where life will take you, I think giving up for a while is a good thing, like taking break from life and vent a little
PeaceHopeLove, I feel like I’m talking when you said “Until they have to feel the pain it shouldn't be said” , I just hate it when they said “I know what you feel “ , NO you don’t , when the pain goes away I forget how it feel , how you can know it if you didn’t feel it ever ?!?! , I’m a good believer in God , and I know that he is with me all the time and that he’s giving me strength to go on with life , thank you for reminding me .
Tessie2 , I know that your situation is worse than mine , but I know and believe that you are a strong person , a strong person who gave me hope , and you said it , (I lost what I lost when I lost it), nothing change , but we are still alive and life isn’t over yet , there is a lot to do any feel good about and we still have those blissful DSers how I’m sure will be here to help us along the way , and we still have God in our side , I hope that I can help like you did with me .
Lovely Norrie08 , I feel so blessed to know a brave person like you , “ allowing others to feel healthy and go about their lives and mine was being curtailed” , I know exactly what you are talking about I feel like that most of the time , but as you said also “in each of my experiences and pain, things always turned around and eventually there was light - maybe just a glimmer of hope -and I would eventually laugh once again” , sometimes I like having RA , it is an unique experience , It made me have an abnormal life and a lot of events in my life , I know I’ll sound crazy , but I made my life exciting , with all the problems I had before RA was different , I some way it made me a better person , it made me feel like a fighter , a warier .
I know the situation will turn around in time, maybe not much, but it will, and I think that as long as I’m living things will change and I have to” pray, while enduring it all”, and I know that God is by my side and that he never give me something unless it is good for me, if this good didn’t show now, it will later, and there is always a good side in everything, even if it is small.
Life will go on whether I did or not , and I think it’s ok to take a break every then and a while , but eventually I’ll have to pick up form I started and go on .
Thank you DSers, my life wouldn’t be the same without you all.
Love you all

Memole

Sweet Memole,

Just hold on to the image of all of us here encirling you with a hand gently placed on your head or shoulder blessing you, caring about you and calling out God's name on your behalf. I can't know exactly how you feel but I can offer you comfort and support. I'm pulling for you. Please know that your are beloved. Sandy

No one wants the bad things in life, no one wants to be its victim. However, life is a roller coaster, we have ups and downs ins and outs and we are here for the ride. If we just stood still and didn't feel or reach out for things or live what would it be like, we'd be like a big ol rock. I hate to feel bad over whatever, but I always know and feel someone out there has it so much worse, and then I feel guilty for worrying about me and stewing over what I am thinking about. And even with this RA stuff, there are so many things worse. there is more pain than we feel so feel, what you are feeling for now, but take each day and make a small step of doing something that will make you better.

Take care and don't give up and certainly vent when you need to.

I hope today is better for you.
Renee

I hope things will turn around for you soon and I agree with all the other postings. When God closes a door, or even two, he always opens windows. And who knows where those windows lead to until we approach them. You have had an awful time with all the things that have gone wrong for you. Know that you can always post how you feel and that we are here for you. Take care.

I understand the feeling of loss as well. One of the things that has been eating at me is I'm 36 now, on a bunch of drugs and can't even imagine getting pregnant and having a baby. I have no children yet...did I miss my chance?
I've always thought that I would someday become a mother with or without a spouse. I have enough trouble looking after myself and the thought of caring for a baby or child seems too ambitious to me not mention the risks associted the drugs I'm on. Going off them is just not an option. One of reasons I'm here in this group is when I brought this feeling of loss up with my mother she got really upset. It hadn't occured to her that the RA may have put an end to her ever getting a grandchild. She even made me feel guilty about it and that I was overstaing how impossible in my mind it would be.
Every time I think about it tears well up in my eyes. I can't help but think that's its so unfair. So Memole I feel your pain but I think we both need to remember that its not over yet. We still have alot of life to live and we don't know what great things might be just sround the corner. Hang in there!.

That is a lot to ingest, I really don't blame you for feeling the way you are. I think you have every right to feel that way! I have dealt with many losses at one time and wondered if I was a freaking axe murderer in a past life because I really felt bad for myself and didn't think it was at all fair to have to try to cope. I am so sorry you are dealing with this! I wish there were something I could do to help to feel better. Like others have said, "just know that we are here" and that you can let it all hang loose here. I am so very sorry!