What is Renal Cell Carcinoma Kidney Cancer
Renal cell carcinoma, also known by a gurnistical tumor, is the most common form of kidney cancer arising from the renal tubule. It is the most common type of kidney cancer in adul...
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Years ago I was diagnosed with breast cancer. I was lucky enough to be treated with tamoxifen. I lived.
Two months short of the golden seventh year, I was diagnosed with renal cell carcinoma. My left kidney, with accompanying tumors, was removed. Today, I got the latest test results. They do not know if the renal cell spread or if it is another form of cancer. Cancer is in my ribs and left lung. As scary as that is, the reaction of the man that says he loves me is more so. He can't deal with what his life was before me - he was, and is, an alcoholic. He has gone thru detox, intense rehab, and follow up. He hides vodka in his underwear so he can sneak it home. I am an alcoholic - I admit it.. I stopped so I could help him - but now I am drinking again. He tells me I should wrote a book. I have no where to go. My parents are dead. I have no brothers or sisters. I can't go back to NC - there is no one there. Moffitt Cancer Center in Tampa is all I got left. Has anyone else felt like it isn't worth it? Posted on 05/07/09, 04:05 am |
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Thank you for having the courage to post your plight.
Everyone of us on the face of Good Mother Earth has things in our closet that we may be ashamed of, or regret. I have mRCC too, and can talk to you about treatments and options. You are still a human being and deserve all the love and support and kindness we can give you. I can't help you with any of the problems you have. But I can tell you that everyone in this Group is here to help you and encourage you. I hope your day looks brighter. Dave 
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Hello, I hope that you know that on DS there are folks here that care, and know quite a bit about some of the therapies and courses you have or may have to go thru. I'll offer prays and want you to know I care too. Hugs, L.
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Do not despair. There is much hope out there in the form of new drugs to treat this illness. Get yourself together and ask your doctors to recommend a counselor who can see you through this trial and help you to cope. There are also cancer support groups at many hospitals, maybe you can find one. This web site will also be very helpful to you. It may seem like a struggle especially if you do not have a supportive and helpful life partner at your side, . but you can gain strength from other sources.. Hang in there!
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Hello There!
I'm fairly new to DS, and just ready your post. I agree that you showed great courage in sharing with us. There isn't anyone on this earth that is perfect....so please don't beat yourself up, Honey. My husband has MRCC, and we are very hopeful with all the wonderful new drugs available today. You can be too! Please update us, as we're all here for you. Love, Ingrid
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It's been awhile, but I did want to thank you for your kindness and encouragement. I just finished a month of IL2 and radiation treatments and am waiting for the results (end of this month).
I have been sober since writing the post you responded to. Maybe seeing it in writing made me realize I did have the ability to control at least that part of my life. Phil has not stopped drinking, but he does have it under control. I think he realized cancer was a fact we both had to deal with, whether he was in denial or not. He has really stepped up and been there for me I read that post now and feel very small. Thank you so much for helping me feel I count and that people do care. Sandra
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Hi Sandra,
It's very tough to deal with a couple of big things at the same time, but don't give up, it's still worth fighting for. I'm glad you were able to stop drinking, and that you and Phil are able to deal with cancer together. I hope your treatment will have a positive result, that you can appreciate what you can control, and enjoy what you still can do. We're here for you, and want to keep hearing how you're doing.
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Dear Precious Sandra,
It sounds like you are going through a great deal of pain. I am here for you and so are others on DS. We truly love you and care about you. I find your sharing about drinking again as being a very positive and brave thing! We all have our weaknesses....so please don't beat yourself up over this. Some men just can't cope with adversity. I hate so that your man is feeling this way, especially when you need him so now. Know that God is always with you, and that he knows the desires of your heart and the pain you are suffering. I pray that He will lead you to a wonderful support group, where you'll make some dear friends who WILL BE THERE for you!! Dear Father in Heaven, Please let Sandra feel your presence and your love. She is hurting terribly, and needs comfort. I lift her up to you now, Lord. In your precious son's name, Jesus, I pray. Amen my private email is sumtermsgrace@yahoo.com Please write and we'll share in private. God bless you, my friend. I love you, Ingrid
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Dear Sandra,
you are a very HONEST and also have so much STRENGTH, more than you know, you do....I also haven't any family left and even tho Tim has the kidney cancer, i try not to think about....I am a very strong women and you are too, and i have grown up so much in this last year and take on alot of responsibilities but whatever happens we'll fight.... I just wanted you to know how i feel..Please take care... Becca
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